By Ringless - 25/02/2010 21:47 - United States
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let her go and don't say anything to her at all. she's going to call within a week or two and your job is to ignore her...completely. don't talk to her, don't answer the door, and don't answer the phone. if you do, you fail at life because you're going to end up getting married and we'll be reading another post from you about 6 months from now (if that) of how your wife is divorcing you because your she wants to move to Peru and you won't go because you have a job and this time you're going to be selfish, boring, AND stubborn. listen to the commenters dude...even the females are warning you here. FML...we know what's best
fuck you 113. your one of those bitches. we are not made of money. one cake is fine and it should be something they both like. it's called compromising. if she isn't going to fold on this, just imagine when they are married and the shit he has to put up with. high matinance bitches are totally not worth it. eventually your pussy is going to get boring and cheat on you anyways.
Swag is right. She is selfish and childish and more than a little unreasonable. The wedding cake is for both of you, especially since most weddings have a cake cutting (and eating) ceremony. I want to believe she is just a bridezilla or really high-strung about the wedding but this is just too extreme. This marriage would not go well for you.
Sounds to me like you got off easy, OP. You're lucky to not marry an entitled bitch who doesn't care about you. If you had married her, 15 years down the road you'd finally come to your senses when she's got you both into 100k of debt buying things to satisfy her princess complex, and you finally decide to divorce her, and you get half her debt and she gets the house.
#158 just because #113 mentioned a groom's cake, that does not make her high-maintenance OR a bitch. Groom's cake is just a new trend going around that ALL social class people can partake in. Not just the wealthy. It's purpose is for the groom to get what he wants in a cake, because nowadays the bride pretty much picks everything. That being said, the OP's fiancée WAS wrong for breaking it off over a piece of cake, but like I said before at least he is not going to be tied down to the bitch now. FYL OP.
Yes, consider yourself very lucky to have gotten out of this! Unless you really LOOOVE the drama of childish ultimatums and selfish hysteria. But then, there are plenty of those kinds of fish in the sea. Find yourself a quality woman who cares about you, not her "dream wedding". Please note: quality women are not always as good looking as high-maintenance drama queen trophy wives. Decide what's more important to you.
it has nothing really to do with the cake, it is about how she acted and treated him, that is just one of those things that should be a compromise, throwing a fit because her fiancé is allergic to chocolate is completely un called for, we are not in elementary school anymore
Groom's cakes are an old custom, and at least in my area they are traditionally chocolate and/or comical. I guess they're coming back because there are now so many extras being pumped into weddings. The trend that trips me out the most is the whole multiple wedding gowns thing. One gown, one leaving for the honeymoon outfit, the end, that's all that makes sense to me, I mean it's one day and you've already changed clothes three times at least, that would get tiring and expensive. Anyway, fyl but good riddance, anyone who pulls the "its MY day and i get whatever I want" crap about a wedding (the start of a married couple's life TOGETHER ) doesn't deserve a life partner anyway, particularly when she does it at the expense of your health.
I think Op is the one being a problem. He's not going to be eating all the wedding cake. It's for the guests. That's why they have a "grooms cake" I made my own wedding cake. It was so tasty I didn't get a single bite. Let her have her dream cake & get a grooms cake you like. There are simple solutions for everything.
Why would you still want to marry a selfish bitch like that anyway? Count your blessings dude...
you should have gotten a non chocolate grooms cake. a woman ALWAYS gets what she wants on her wedding day. u should always agree with the bride. thats why they have grooms cakes, so u think u have ur own little something. YDI
You sound like a bridezilla in the making. You are a bitch and you need to learn the very simple fact of life that you don't always get your way. Especially in marriage. Marriage is about compromise, not abusive behaviors and hissy fits from idiots who were spoiled rotten. Like you and the OP's fiancee.
No, she actually was being a stupid bitch. As someone planning a wedding at the moment, I can safely say OP's ex is a selfish whore who deserves nothing but misery for the rest of her life. It's a FUCKING CAKE. So her not getting what she wants automatically means she gets to throw a bitch fit and break up with her fiance? Him being allergic to chocolate is something she's obviously known for a long time and if she couldn't somehow get over the fact that she won't get a totally chocolate cake she's in severe denial. She also must've forgotten that yes, your wedding cake can be various flavors. OP: she's probably hiding something.
If mandacakes' only point was that the concept groom's cake was created for this reason, OK. But the rest of her comment was bitchy and 'zilla-y. A woman does not ALWAYS get what she wants on her wedding day. I just got married and compromised on plenty of things because I wanted my now-husband to feel like it was OUR day, not just mine. Things that have to do solely with the bride, like her dress, hair, etc. -- sure, she should do what she wants. Things that are about the couple and the celebration in general should be agreeable to both the bride and groom. What a selfish beotch OP's ex was.
@7- The fact that OP said that his ex-fiancee called him childish AND cheap tells me this: HE was paying for the wedding, therefore HE should have had SOME say in what was going into the cake, especially if his health was an issue. I've worked as banquet cook in hotels and catering halls, and the kitchen staff always has to be notified if ANY guest has a food allergy. IMO, Bridezilla was being a cunt, and should have shown way more consideration than that, since he apparently was paying for everything and probably couldn't afford to buy a groom's cake for himself . OP you're better off without her.