By fucked by sex ed - 29/03/2013 17:18 - United States - Manchester
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#96, I'm glad you took it upon yourself.. Some people, if they're curious enough, will take it upon themselves to self education, but as they say, ignorance is bliss.. And the government knows people can operate this way.. Schools are corrupt.. All under a state of law jurisdiction for what material they bring to the school to be 'acceptable'.. And they control it so much, that they teach kids the fundamentals, but not be creative with life. Only what gets you by in life to contribute to how the system is. Serious lock down to keep every aspect the same. (Rant, somewhat off topic) sorry OP, but perhaps since the schools couldn't do it, get some sense into him with real talk and teach him how to think for himself.
41, we had sex ed in 5th, 6th, and 7th grade. It was always a week long, with graphic videos of a woman giving birth and how painful labor is, explaining how embarrassing it is for when a girl gets her first period, why boys get aroused so easily, why girls start puberty earlier than boys, made us take care of a baby for a week (those battery operated ones that cried, needed to be fed, cradled, and all the works!), going over the STDs, etc... Needless to say, we were scared shitless to have sex. They didn't even push abstinence; they made it clear that you should only become sexually active when you feel ready, make sure you take birth control and/or carry condoms, and be safe. Essentially, they prepared us for how hard it would be to have a baby, while you're still a child. We were left knowing that if we felt mature enough to have sex, we sure as hell would have to be ready to raise a child. This was in Alaska. I know each state is different but I can say it was really effective.
Yeah, because teens need this sort of things to be explained to them by their parents. On the Internet, with their friends, it's uncommon to hear about sex, right? Come on, I never had a sex ed class in school, nor my parents gave me the sex talk, but I still grow up fine. I discover what sex was by myself when I was "old" enough to understand that sort of things. If I needed to I could ask anyone, my parents are not prude or close-minded, but I think people "find out" at some point, especially in this Internet culture. OP's son is just extremely naive, and I just don't get how he, at his age, never heard of sex and how it works. I don't think sex ed in school is wrong, I think it's necessary! But teens (children, in most cases) would understand sex at some point. I just don't blame OP because he thought his son already knew about it. (Sorry for any mistake, English is not my first language)
It's the parents' job to give 'the talk'. Ideally, sex ed in schools would be detailed and useful, but even if that was the case everywhere, parents should pretty much always be providing age-appropriate sex ed. When i was 4 i knew babies came when mommies and daddies love each other... By 7 i had a little more specific info, and knew that parents had to decide to do something physical, and that might make a baby. By 10 I knew the biology, and that you wait until you're married (yes, i consider this appropriate at 10, keep reading). Around 13, i got the big bombshell, that marraige isn't necessary, (yup, see, not a scary abstinence thumper) and being careful is, complete with std info. this was all effective. Tl:dr? I knew more than op's son at 7, and that's op's fault, not the school's
Why do parents expect the school to do everything for them? It's not their job to teach your child about sex so YDI
I will tell you why. Because there are a lot of parents out there that don't believe that kids need to learn about sex for religious reasons and are having schools take the program out of health class and then don't talk to their kids about it. Parents who don't believe sex before marriage is the devil expect it because it is apart of HEALTH class. Also it is embarrassing to talk to your kid about. And kids don't always listen to their parents.
If OP did not want the school to teach them about it they would not have complained about them not doing it. However, that is still not the schools responsibility. If they did not want to have that conversation with their child then they should not have had children.
28- If parents don't want their children to know about sex for "religious reasons," or any reason for that matter, they are just plain stupid. It is more responsible to teach children about such things at the right age. My mother, who is religious, told me before my school did. I knew what a period was before I got it, which was super helpful. And I even asked her questions about my body. It wasn't embarrassing or awkward and it shouldn't be for any child and parent. I wouldn't care if every school took out teaching kids what sex is because that is a parent's job. It's better for a child to hear it from mom and dad than the school or friends. OP- YDI for not giving your son The Talk. The school system is not responsible for such things. You are the parent.
That's just plain stupid. I'm religious and intend to fully teach my kids about sex before anyone else does. As a religious person, I want them to understand sex from a religious standpoint otherwise they will eventually hear of it from word of mouth. Every single parent should be the first one to teach their kids about sex/love/girlfriends/boyfriends if the school does it first, you're doing something wrong. And honestly if you're too embarrassed and childish to talk to your own kids about sex you shouldn't be having children.
4: No, but it should be. Why do so many people think that parents can't be ignorant too? Schools are staffed by professional educators, so why not let them educate kids about sex too? Side note: "Abstinence-only sex ed" is shit, and no responsible person should ever endorse it.
Here is how I see it. My school brought it actual educators from planned parenthood and the the local hospital to tell us about sex. My mother has never been able to really answer my questions about sex. I would rather have someone who actually knows what the hell they are talking about teach me. And also just google the damn issue if you think what I am saying is bullshit it is going on all over the country. People want sex Ed pulled out of school because of religious reasons. I'm not crazy here.
I agree #4. Really sex education shouldn't even be necessary because if you can't get over yourself enough to have an awkward conversation about a subject that's hard to talk about with a kid for the sake of your own child, you're not much of a parent anyway. When my kids get to that age sure they'll just go through the dam class, but I'll have already told them the stuff myself. The school can just give the detailed anatomy crap. The important things about being safe and responsible should already be covered by the parent.
I think the problem is that you keep just saying 'religious reasons' in a general way. It is ok to say that this tends to be a conservative Christian viewpoint, as they often say so themselves. These other commenters might feel the need to defend themselves as religious people who aren't anti sex ed. Contrary to frequent internet opinion, Christianity comes in MANY flavors, and 'religious' doesn't just mean Christian. It's not that people don't believe what you're saying, it's that they want you to know it doesn't apply to them, imo.
Okay, so everyone here feels that sex ed SHOULD NOT be necessary. But obviously, IT IS. Can't we just agree on that? You cannot rely on all individuals, that are parents, to do the right thing. Some people just shouldn't be parents, but they are. And some people didn't get sex ed, got children because they didn't know about protection and then you expect them to teach their children about protection? No. That is not how the world works. Sex ed is necessary in schools. There is a reason the USA has the highest teen pregnancy rate. Almost all countries in Europe are obligated to give sex ed and it pays off.
For some reason I doubt he's a virgin. I dunno why I just doubt it.