By Anonymous - 07/01/2012 14:07 - Canada
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@129 Not everyone gets sick while pregnant and even if they do the Op's case is still incredibly severe compared to most pregnancies. My sister was like this while pregnant but I was sick twice and that was it. It really just depends on the person. @OP there are some pills you can get from your GP that can help. My sister had them to help her and they were a gofsend. I would talk to your GP before you end up with some real damage to your throat or stomach or baby and in this instance insist the doc makes a house call.
24, Hopefully that was some kind of a joke. Sure it's preventable by something like abstinence, but it's not a viable option all your life. Other methods of birth control might not be possible, for example because of health problems, or lack of affordability. Plus, again, they can all fail. Shit happens to everyone, so get off your high horse.
I'm sorry 52, but have you ever been on the pill? It's not exactly harmless, and many women are unable to take it. It was pure hell for me, and even if you don't experience side effects, it's still silently fucking up your body. Hence, the "health problems" part of my comment above. And yet again, pills can fail.
I feel sorry for you, shrooms. Fending off the idiots by yourself. I swear every time I see "HERP DERP CONDOMS ALWAYS WORK AND PILLS ARE 100% HEALTHY! Logic??? No thanks!" I want to face desk. Luckily, my break is now over so I won't be checking this for a while. At any rate, good luck wth them.
Nope, no high horse here. I'm just thankful for the knowledge of a wealth of resources that are available to almost every woman in the US that prevent pregnancy. Including abstinence. If you're not ready to be a parent, don't have sex. Can't take the pill? IUD, diaphragm, condoms. No method is 100% but used in conjunction they can be. If they all fail, abortion (if that is a choice for you). If not, suck it up, you made your choices and therefore, you DO deserve it.
61, I don't see how being empathetic to other people's situation has anything to do with a high horse of any kind. 76, Are you fuckin retarded? Have any of you even had sex? I don't ever want kids. Does that mean I need to be abstinent all my life, or poison my body with pills, or never get to feel the intimate skin to skin feeling you can't get with a condom, or pay out the ass for an IUD (which DOES have complications)? And while I'm pro-choice, I'm not delusional about the fact that having an abortion is absolutely not an easy decision. Where are your hearts? Put yourself in someone else's shoes for once.
No, I'm about making responsible choices and holding others to the same standards. I'm empathetic, I'm not sympathetic. Yes, if you don't want to face the realities of pregnancy and STDs because you don't want to use birth control/condoms for whatever reason, then you DO deserve what you get. If I had a dollar for every girl who cried on my shoulder and said she wished she had made better choices or been given prevention information earlier, I could retire. If "having a heart" means I have to accept that temporary pleasure outweighs years of problems and regret, no thank you. For me, having a heart means educating others, taking responsibility, and solving problems.
81 i agree with you. I had been using both the pill and condoms when I got pregnant. You can not get the IUD unless you have had a child at least that is what my OB/GYN told when I went to go back on birth control. 76 not everyone wants to live like a naive little girl always cringing away from anything sexual. Accidental pregnancies happen even if your being the most careful person in the world.
And you need to learn to read. NO ONE is advocating being irresponsible or not trying to prevent unwanted pregnancies. NO ONE is advocating forgoing education about pregnancy prevention. My point is simply that you absolutely positively cannot say someone deserves an unplanned pregnancy without more information of any kind. First, because not everyone is able (key word - ability does not equal choice) to utilize every prevention method and second, because even if you do, THEY CAN AND DO FAIL.
If OP was not ready for this, she simply shouldn't have been having sex. There is always a chance of getting pregnant no matter what you do to prevent it. Besides, everyone pregnant woman (or so I assume) goes through this and it's very conceited to assume you're oh so special and are allowed to complain about it. You made the choice that got you here so suck it up.
Ya know what, I think this is one of the very few situations in which it is appropriate to say fuck it, and call everybody virgins. "Dun want kids, dun hav secks!! durrr ijut!" Maybe one day, especially when you fall in love, you'll understand that the purpose of sex is much more than just reproduction or "temporary pleasure". And if you're lucky, you might eventually learn to read!
Please let's not drag a cultural debate into this as well. Attribute the actions to the people, not their nationality. That is not a common wish in the Korean community. Also, OP is 8 weeks so it's a little early for the "at least you didn't miscarry" comments. A few years from now, OP, you won't remember how horrible you feel now.
84-Who are you to be so judgmental? The choice 5 made to have a baby is hers, not yours. At least she isn't an 11-year-old having a baby! (Yes, I know some girls that have gotten pregnant at that young of an age.) At least at 19 she is able to get a job and support herself and a child while labor laws don't allow anybody under 14 to get a job and work. I'm not condoning "young age" pregnancies, but you don't know her circumstances, therefore giving no right for judgment to be made upon her for being pregnant for the third time after TWO miscarriages! 5-My condolences on your miscarriages and you and your baby are in my thoughts and prayers. I myself miscarried twins.
84 and 121, who are you to decide when she can reproduce? I'm 20, very happily married, pay our bills on time, save for our future, my husbands a soldier with two tours, does that mean we're automatically too immature for a child? I think not. You have no idea who she is, I've known 50 yr olds who act like their children do. Think before voicing your opinion.
Doesn't matter, had sex
1, If your mother had that logic, you wouldn't be here right now.