By Andrew - 31/10/2011 04:04 - United States
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Since OP and his wife were abstinent till their wedding day im sure they're religious. Just so OP knows, you're NOT allowed to have sex with a women who's on her period. And even after she's done, you have to wait 7 days after to have any sexual relations. It DOES say this in the bible, I just need to find the verse.
Somewhere in Leviticus, if you're talking about the Christian bible. However, Jews and Muslims probably believe in the same thing, since they all share the same old testament. Being abstinent doesn't have to mean religious. It could simply be a commitment thing. OP: You've waited all this time, what's another 7 or so days???
as with #101... if you're religious, you claim that your holy book/writings are the rules/guidelines given to you by your deity to be followed exactly as it planned you to. Not following the bible literally is pretty well saying "I put faith into your existence, but fck you and your rules"
151: The Bible also says that rape victims should marry their rapists, gay people deserve to die, and the world was populated by 4 monogamous couples and 2 of every animal. The Bible was not written by God, and some of the things in there may have been made up. Christians believe in the teachings of Jesus, the son of God. If Jesus says to love everyone, and the Old Testament says to kill people who have sex with women on their periods, go with what the son of God says.
In the butt!
Sex on your period is fine, if you both are ok with it. If you are not then ...blue balls for you! Anal is also fine, if you are both into it and ready for it, but not if either or both of you are virgins. It takes a bit of skill, experience, confidence, patience, understanding and time. I don't quite get the logic though...blood is too gross but the poop-chute is ok? Last thing, a lady can somewhat control or manipulate when her period actually arrives if she is on the pill. I'm not gonna tell you how I did it for my wedding cos I don't want to be responsible for any 16 year olds out there reading my comment and try to avoid their period on prom night, and accidentally end up knocked up. Artificially moving your period a few days here or there stuffs up your cycle which could possibly interfere with its effectiveness. I would say, you would only wanna do it if the pill is not your only method of birth control, or if you are at a point where pregnancy is almost gonna be in the plan anyway (such as a newly married couple, perhaps). ***Engaged ladies who didn't consult a calender before choosing a wedding date may like to look into it. Anyway, I would say...just wrap it up and do it anyway. You'll probably end up doing it a thousand times during her periods over the coming years, and you'll feel a bit silly having fooked up your wedding night for such a little thing.
57- nope, I'm a female and as much as I love discussing my menstration with total strangers, I can tell you that even when I was a virgin, my periods were all over the place. Some times they would be the textbook 28 days apart, other times they would be up to a week late. This delay throws out the cycle and meant that it was no longer at the end of the month, but the start of the next one. Making it impossible to plan out over a year in advance when I would have my period.
I like how you seem to think a week late is really irregular. In all reality, MOST women can be a week or so off pretty frequently. That's not very irregular at all. It's pretty much completely normal. Plus, it's affected by stress, which I am going to have to assume is something most people experience when planning a wedding, so it's very reasonable that she would be a bit off at that point. But seriously, most women are not perfectly regular, and it gets a tad annoying sometimes to hear "But you should be able to know precisely what day your period will start a year from now because that's how that works!" No, no it doesn't. Not for most women. Also, even if she is really, really irregular, consider the fact that both she and the OP promised to remain abstinent until they were married. Tell me how likely it is that she would have considered birth control to be an option. I'm not saying it's not possible, I know there are a lot of people who don't have a problem with it, but particularly if they remained abstinent for religious reasons, a lot of people think that birth control is totally and completely unacceptable. Or she might have been afraid to take it before she got married because people might think she was having sex when she wasn't.
Hayq - Being up to a week late isn't really that irregular. Especially as some girls can skip them altogether, be weeks early, or late, or even on time during the course of a year. Granted once a girl has "grown up" she's supposed to have regular periods, but that's not always the case. But it's probably an idea to chat to a doctor about it if they really are highly irregular. Basically what Joa said. However, Joa, there will be very few women who can tell you EXACTLY what day they'll start on (like you said), but I imagine most would be able to hazard a guess as to within a week-long time frame or something.
Part the red sea, it's not the end of the world buddy!
Just wait it out, so when you guys do finally have that moment, you guys will go more hard. Also, it'll feel a lot better.