By Username - 18/10/2010 12:03 - France
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Why would an adult want to sleep with a child? Your boyfriend is sick and you should stay as far away as possible. Children are not appealing.
Of course there are gray areas, but if you're an adult, you should not be with a child. If you're with someone when you're both minors and one happens to turn 18 first, I would say that's different. Unless there's a large gap between ages. Given that this story was published on FML, I'm going to /assume/ they are quite a few years older than 18. Once you're an adult, you should stay away from anyone younger than 18. IMO.
I agree with your comment #44, Anna, with the exception of your assumption. Without more info, I just can't wholeheartedly say HDI. There are far too many young girls out there with age-inappropriate clothes, caked-on make-up, and fake IDs to assume he could tell she was a minor. If he definitely knew she was a minor, then yeah, he needs to pay the consequences for statutory rape, because that's inexcusable. But if they just met, she lied about her age AND she fully consented, I can't agree with such harsh penalties. There's a big difference between the latter scenario and baiting kids with candy at a playground. Unfortunately, US laws don't differentiate the two very clearly, and once someone's listed on the sex offender registry, most people don't give a crap how they got there-- they're gonna assume the worst. Having said all of that, I'm not sure the issue here is statutory rape anyway. If it was, it wouldn't matter that she's claiming rape now; she couldn't legally consent to begin with. It seems to me like this is more a matter of the typical he said/she said rape charge, but he's just at a major disadvantage. Since she's a minor, chances are the court will look more harshly upon his actions, and possibly he'll be considered guilty until proven innocent in the jury's eyes. Either way, though, OP needs to cut her ties and tell him to hire a public defender.
Strebor, I don't knkw where you're from, but in texas, it's 17, and of both parties are under 17 and over fourteen, the can consent if they are within a two year age gap. Which honestly makes a lot of sense to me, as it rids the situation on statutory rape of more of its gray area.
In Canada (well at least Albert ) where I live age of consent is 16 and they can be with someone up to 4 years older. Also age of consent changes depending on where you are from. However to me this sounds more like a much older adult dating a minor rather than someone who just turned 18.