By wtf - 20/06/2011 07:43 - Canada
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spice up your night :) throw all the spices you have on the bed!!
Wait, I'll help you! When a woman isn't in the mood for sex for a couple of days/weeks/months/... or when she says she doesn't find sex important, chances are big that she's 'lying'. With 'lying' I mean that she is not not in the mood for sex (double negation ftw!) , but that she isn't in the mood for that specific kind of sex she receives. Many women prefer no sex instead of bad sex. And when is the sex bad, you ask? Well, mostly when she has the feeling that there is no(t much) intimacy. To avoid this problem, there is a simple solution called 'communication'. She needs to say what she likes, but, the partner also has to ask her preferences. It's very hard to say to your partner what you like in bed if he/she never asks for it.
I disagree. that can be the case or life changes can happen that put sex at the bottom of the priority list and kill libedo. medications can also kill sex drive. the op never stated if the wife has had any major sudden life changes, is dealing with chronic stress, is on medication which might kill sex drive (antidepressants, some seizure medications, etc). she may be bored with the sex she gets from her partner or truly not interested in sex.
^Google image dutch oven. Nothing to do with her nationality. I always read DjeePee's name as DJPeepee. That'd be asick DJ name. Anyways, I agree with her. Very few people grow tired of sex, they just grow tired of sex with that person. Find ways to fix it. However, it's not always fixable, and I think this is a valid reason for a change of status in the relationship.. I'm rarely one to say "divorce", but it's better than cheating or being miserable together. There's also taking some time apart, or having an open marriage, though i wouldn't call that a better solution. Start by talking, though. Try to fix it, don't just whine on FML..
An open marriage is not a marriage. It's both spouses cheating on each other in front of each other. With that said, I have to disagree about it being someone getting bored with their partner. I know that's sometimes the case but not always. I'm not bored with me and my fiancé's sex life in the least (it's fucking amazing) but I have the sex drive of a 50 year old woman. My doctor says a lot of women just have naturally low sex drives that have nothing to do with boredom whatsoever.