By Anonymous - 08/05/2012 11:35 - United States
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Perhaps skoomaki, its time to whip out the dictionary and look up the meaning of some words. Necrophiliac would be having sex with a dead body, you know cold and lifeless. A person who is a vegetable would not be dead. So in no plausible, intelligent way is this necrophilia. Although I have read some of your comments so I can see why you would think of necrophilia
139- are you saying on a boyfriend/girlfriend level you shouldn't talk about certain topics? Long as its a somewhat long lasted relationship I see no problem. When you are in love (which can happen in an only dying stage) you shouldn't have to keep things to yourself. Although op did deserve it because you should put a little into sex...
OP - Maybe you shouldn't ask those kinda questions until you get you "act" together. Fake it till you make it!!!
Then tell him he's not a "vegetable" where it counts. But seriously, your boyfriend really should know what to say or not when concerning sexual things, so you should talk with him about it and see if you two can work something out :) Or maybe he joked, not sure to be honest, but guys like him makes us other guys look bad.. Fyl indeed..:/ But have a nice day ~
6- op's question to her boyfriend is just immature. Is that gunna make her feel better about herself knowing that if she was a vegetable she would have a bf still? If I was I sure as hell wouldn't be worried about it. And to what her bf said... How is he in the wrong? A relationship is not a one sided thing. If a girl doesn't do anything and just expects the guy to do it all then why should he care enough about her feelings when she don't care enough to even fuck him.
ayoo, obviously you are new here, so I will spell it out for you. G. T. F. O. Now.. Since I am sure you lack the mental processing power to figure out what that means, it's Get. The. Fuck. Off. Click the little [X] in the browser window, or close the app, and never come back. You have already sealed your fate and will forever be thumbed to oblivion
51 - are you serious? While agree with you that relationships are definitely two-sided and communication is necessary, the whole "you don't satisfy me, so I don't give a shit about your feelings" doesn't seem like a healthy standpoint. We don't know if this is the first time hearing about her poor performance or not and some girls genuinely don't know. I agree, she shouldn't have asked the question if she wasn't prepared for the answer, but that hardly gives the boyfriend a freebie to rip on her bedroom skills. Usually that's a conversation that's approached with a little more class and consideration. Oh, and relationships comprise of more than sex - they're are people together who rarely if ever engage in sex, because sex isn't everything in a relationship.
If OP is in a relationship with this guy she should be acutely aware of his sensibilities, and expect a response of that nature. It makes no difference if the response was positive or negative; what matters is the way he would respond. So answering with a snide but honest remark does not make him at fault. OP is immature and insecure. That is the problem here. OP now knows her boyfriend perceives issues in their sex life. She should be looking at ways to resolve that issue, not looking for sympathy for a comment that tells her honestly that he's dissatisfied . The comment doesn't make the bf or any other man look bad. It makes OP look like she has some personal issues to work out. Many people use sarcasm when discussing sensitive topics. It allows the other person a level of distance from the sting that comes with an unpleasant truth. Don't blame the boyfriend for stating how he is dissatisfied.
Again, I don't disagree that the question is ridiculous. That was never the issue I addressed. What I said was that conversations of that nature are usually taking with more class and consideration. And honestly, you think sarcasm will come off as "this is what I really want but I'm too much of a coward to tell you openly"? Alright bud, keep dreaming. Usually sarcasm is perceived as both a defense mechanism and something to be dismissed. He wants her to change up her act? Then he can tell her in a positive manner that will make her feel both willing to try something new and excited to. Trust me - because I can pretty much guarantee that an ex-girlfriend or partner of yours has done it themselves. Subtly at it's finest folks.
I think what they were getting at is the BFs response was in a sense, letting OP down easily (metaphorically). He didn't just outright say, "you suck in bed, why am I even having sex with you?" (I'm sure that woulda really stung). There's really no good way to tell someone they suck in bed. I, myself, have been on the receiving end of a blunt outright comment on it. I woulda prefered a more subtle way of the girl I lost my virginity to then having her break up with me and say "If you lasted longer in bed the sex wouldn't have sucked." Thankfully, the next girlfriend and I worked on it together, even though the first girls comment has left me worried about my performance ever since, even after 3 years
Alright. This is just getting repetitive now. Being compared to a vegetable is not being let down easily - it's the girl equivalent of being called a two-minute man. Its still a cutting remark. And from someone who has openly admitted to be on the receiving end, if you hadn't worked things out with your current girlfriend (and she wasn't as rude about your performance as your first was, now was she? Would have been a whole different story if she was) you'd never have made progress. Few people are naturally amazing in the sac, and to be honest most of the time a person's first time is awful, and some people stick with what they think it's suppose to be. Without talking to each other, you'll never know what the other likes. How he went about it was wrong, regardless of the ridiculously insecure question that "prompted" the reply. You say that you still second guess yourself even now after 3 years. Yeah, and so will the girl who was compared to having sex with a brain-dead patient.
And I'm guessing you were expecting him to say something like "I would love you no matter what..."....shoot