By notjustfat - 20/04/2016 23:24 - United States
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You should have told him good, because you weren't sexually attracted to him either. But it's not because of his micro penis.
If OP's bf isn't attracted to her, that's not his fault cause there's nothing he can do about it and I think it might be better to just say it rather than have an embarrassing situation where she tries to come onto him and he fails to get it up. The fat comment was dumb, but I'll play devils advocate for a moment. I can understand the hedging if OP is constantly stressed about her weight. My ex was really self conscious about her weight and it sucked to watch her beat herself up over it on a daily basis. If I screwed up and said something that she MIGHT have perceived as "you're fat", I probably would have backpedaled my way into a horrific faux pas too. As I understand society, most guys are very adverse to saying anything that would insinuate something negative about their girlfriends weight. OP's bf said something stupid, but that certainly doesn't mean he doesn't care about her. Or, he could be a total asshole. Never know.
Why say that? How is that gonna help the situation? Why is the first resort to say something more hurtful than what he said? Everytime a female post something where her boyfriend accidentally said something insulting, somebody is commenting telling her to say something even worse when he probably didn't even mean it.
No dear, they said "you aren't the brightest lightbulb" because you are not saying the correct words. You said the OP doesn't deserve someone who puts her down, when you should have said the person who put the OP down doesn't deserve her, or that she doesn't deserve to be put down. In short you fucked up, and still don't realize it. Hope this helps.
Why have you not left him since he said that? If he's not attracted to you, and he obviously doesn't care for your feelings if he said it like that, why be with him? You're worth more than that OP. I don't think you should have made a comment about his "micro penis" like another person said, because that's pretty immature and it just makes it seem like you are just trying to hurt him because he hurt you. However I wouldn't stay with him.
Totally with you on this one #6. Very well put, you dont want to stoop down to his level which was both intentionally hurtful and childish. But thats not at all a healthy relationship for you OP. The sooner you can rid yourself of that storm cloud boyfriend...the better.
Sex isn't everything about a relationship. being that he isn't sexually attracted to you, it could be because the sex is lame and boring. Ask him what can be done to improve.