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Didn't you talk to her about that matter before you married her?
Why wait 5 years to find out?
Maybe something happened or changed in OP to want kids now. People can change their minds about stuff after years pass by
Maybe it took him five years before he started to want kids
Maybe they married young/were busy (e.g., schooling).
Even if they married young, doesn't change the fact that it's important to discuss children before marriage. My fiancé and I are both 20, and will be getting married in 3 months. We both don't want children until we are 26 or have a house. It's one of those things you discuss in a relationship- no matter the age or current situation
86- If she doesn't want her body look like crap after having a child, then she can hit the gym whenever she can find the time. I know you were just mentioning a possibility, but that's a pretty lame excuse not to have a baby.
Good. One less consumer to pollute the planet.
Just ask her why she doesn't want any kids, and solve the problem. Find a way that she won't mind having kids. Even adoption is a good choice, your giving a child parents that they deserve.
"86- If she doesn't want her body look like crap after having a child, then she can hit the gym whenever she can find the time." My mom's hair changed thanks to labor... From dark blond curls to flat brown hair. Just sayin'.
97 - it doesn't sound like you have children, lol.
hair doesn't change from labor lmao. You do know that hair colour will change as someone grows up. Some children can be born with blonde hair and grow up to have black hair when they are adults. My aunt is like that and she's never had kids.
wow lol #1 took the words right outta my thoughts.
No, it's not. Some women's bodies never recover. And there are much more lame excuses TO have a baby than not to.
Not all women have body changes. A good friend of mine has 3 kids and you can't even tell she's had children. She has no stretch marks, is in a size 2, and has beautiful abs. Plus, children are a blessing. I didn't want children at all, ever. My pregnancy was absolutely accidental, but my son is amazing and I wouldn't go back and not have him even if I could. I know to each his/her own, I'm just saying that children aren't as bad as some of you make them, and the process of having them, out to be.
If children were a blessing for you, that's great. But it depends. For some, children are a blessing. For others, children are a curse! Look at all the children who are abused or even killed at the hands of their parents. Clearly, those are people for whom children were not only a curse, but they shouldn't have had them to begin with. As for children not being as bad as we seem to think, again, that depends on the person. There are parents who admit (anonymously online) that they regret their children, hate parenting and would not do it again if they could go back. To sum it up: it all depends.
I wondered about that as well o.o I'm 20 and have been with my current boyfriend for almost a year and he is the first one I might consider having kids with. But not before I'm 25 and he thinks the same. We've talked numorous times about this topic. We even sorted out what last name and denomination they should have =P I can't imagine being married to someone for years and avoiding this topic all the time o.o
I'm more of an iguana person myself
Llamas ^_^ They will spit on your enemies!
Chinchillas might also suffice.
Or a monkey!
Screw all y'all. Platypuses are the best.
Hamsters are the best :p
I prefer my macaw.
Wookies are the best. Conversation over. >:D
I love my pet cactus. although he can be a prick at times
What about bunnies? :D
Lol
Maybe adopt? She may just not want go thru labour.
Or, she may not want children because she simply does not want children. I don't think there are many women who let the pain of labor stop them from having offspring. There are better reasons, you know. I don't want children because 1) I love the way I'm living right now. 2) I do not want to let something change my life forever. 3) I do not want a lifetime responsibility for them. 4) I don't have any motherly feelings at all. 5) I'm way too self-centered to be a decent mother. 6) I don't want my boyfriend to love something more than me. 7) ... 8) I do not want to endure the pain of being pregnant/labor. This is the second 'my wife doesn't want children'-FML. Makes me sad. Not only for the OP's and their wives, but because I fear my boyfriend will once write this FML. He wants children. He doesn't even know why, he just wants them. He is well aware that I have a different opinion, but he ignores it, thinking that once my mind will change. But if it doesn't....FML.
If he tries to pressure you into having children and you know with certainty that you don't want any, I think you need to end things with him. Rarely does that situation work out.
That awkward monent when your bitch says to get a bitch
Good try I guess? I thought it was funny.
52- Actually, it means a negative meaning for a woman, and the name for a female dog. It's not just "a woman".
Actually, my bfs mom from Jamaica called women bitches without being angry. It is a slang term, depending on where you're coming from it has either a neutral or negative meaning.
I hate awkward monents...
Bitch - Female dog. I thought that was pretty funny
Wow, that sucks, well, I guess dogs are fun too!
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75, actually I stopped needing direct care at around 9, when I could successfully cook my own meals, get myself up and dressed for school, ha been independently using the potty for years, etc. the only thing I required of my parents was new clothes on occasion, and for them to purchase the food I ate. Just an FYI - kids don't need DIRECT care until they are 18, and technically they can get a job at 16 usually and cut out most financial care, leaving you solely with the responsibility of housing them. I personally wanted, and got a job at 16 and paid for my own things, food included. True, not everyone is like this, but it technically is possible. :D
Kids aren't so fun after a couple days. Your life will change forever, but partly in a good way.
*Mostly. Sorry I'm in the app.
I thought the first days were supposed to be Hell though. Don't worry OP, women usually ( but not always) change their minds about it as their age increases.
I didn't change my mind, and I certainly made sure my fiancé knew my thoughts on the matter before we got serious!
You should name the dog after your wife.
Dogs a better anyways (usually)
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Didn't you talk to her about that matter before you married her?
Maybe adopt? She may just not want go thru labour.