By DMitch - 15/05/2011 19:29 - United States
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I have a feeling this relationship was going bad before this. First off, you said time for HER to pay the bill, not WE, and secondly, you said she had to go to the car for her purse. This tells me she wasn't expecting to foot the bill, but you were fully expecting her to. I'm willing to bet you relied on her too much to pay for things and she got fed up. YDI
dude it's subway just pay for it and get over it. $5 footlongs duh!
Who makes a guy pay? I'm a chick, but even I am tired of girls screaming "EQUALITY" unless they benefit from it. It's not equal if you make him foot the bill. Chivalry is dead, after all, and even if it weren't you shouldn't have to be chivalrous so she can be a cheap bitch.
Why should he have to? Perhaps he paid for the last diner? Or he paid for the movie? Why is it assumed a man should always pay by virtue of owning a penis? Last I checked women had careers too, and make enough money to contribute to dates. If we can get over the fact that not all women want to be house wives, we must also accept the fact that not all men want to be walking ATMs.
maybe he paid all the other times and she was paying just once and she decided to break it off. never assume that the person who isn't paying is a cheapskate, especially when if this was a girl whose boyfriend broke up with her this way, your comment would be flamed to ashes
Wow, uh, that was pretty indecent of her. But I must admit, pretty clever. She got a free sub. But, still, it wasn't right of her. I'm sorry, OP. FYL.
that sucks, but you should have been a gentleman and payed for hers anyways
Why? I mean, they could have agreed to pay their own way beforehand. Or they could have an arrangement where they take it in turns to pay. Or she asked to pay for her own (unlikely as she pulled that little stunt). The only reason men were expected to pay for women was because women were considered property in the past and property can't own other property, obviously. However, I wouldn't take a date to Subway. The staff are really creepy if they speak English [or other main language]. I've been hit on and I've had one guy inform me about his plan to take over the world by becoming Pope. He was a Dan Brown fan.
Well you also gotta think, if they had discussed it prior why did she bail? Maybe op always made her foot the bill and she had enough. Note that her purse was in the car, it may have been a test to see if he'd actually pay that time. If they decided to go Dutch before hand she probably would have had the purse on her. Sounds to me like op is cheap, look at the clues. She probably got fed up with it.
I agree and I disagree. Guys should offer to pay the first date, and offer to pay for the first few dates. But usually a paying idea is put out in advance. So if she had decided she was treating, it would be mildly rude for him to insist on it. (And bitchy of her to break up like that) However, if OP had wanted the date, and his girlfriend was always treating, he kind of deserved it... then again, every relationship dynamic is different.
Ratdaddy, I am ashamed to share a name with someone who fails basic reading comprehension. I said 'in the past'. I wasn't suggesting 'women are property' is a widely-held modern attitude in western society. Additionaly, many households are dual income. So the 'men should always pay' line of thinking is a little outdated.
Why should a guy have to pay the first date? I never understood this antiquated social ritual. We are expected to take the risk in asking the girl out. Fine. We are expected to decide where to go on the date. Fine. We're expected to be interesting, manly, look and smell good (just like the girl) and sexual performance stress is all on the guy. If a girl is hot she can just lay there and the guy will get off easily. No, for a guy, there's so much technique and skill involved it's fucking ridiculous. If you fail, she dumps you and grab onto another one of the hundred of branches out there. Even an average looking girl gets hit on at least once a week. So, on top of ALL of this, we're expected to pay for everything to. What. The. Fuck? Yes, if you did not notice, I'm extremely bitter.
322, it's called chivalry. Which apparently, YOU don't have. Your women just lie there because you wanted sex without "wooing" her, so they don't feel obligated to make it interesting. (I really hate bitter guys... obviously they don't feel like making women feel appreciated.) P.S. Most women still bring enough money to pay for a first date. But they still expect you to at least offer.