By -insert clever nickname here- - 29/04/2012 23:56 - United States - Seattle
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Guess she can't take a joke. Must not be the one. Sorry OP :(
But there's a bit of truth in every joke. Maybe she doesn't want to feel as if she owes the OP anything if she does go out on the date. I would think that most guys do pay for the first date. Especially, if he's the one asking her out. Doesn't have to be fancy, fancy. I know times have changed or have they?
That's an interesting point of view, 25. My first thought was that she was a bitch or something, but now I'm wondering if maybe she could be insecure and didn't want the pressure of making sure the date went well. At the end of the day, though, OP, it's most likely one of two things - she's not interested, or she can't take a joke. And sadly, it's probably both. Sorry, man.
Is it just me being old, or is anyone else tired of hearing about someone being, "madly in love" with someone they've never been out with? If it's just me being old please direct me to where I can pick up my "Dirty ol' crotchety asshole" card. I think it gives me a discount at Wendy's.
That really sucks man. But hey, you didn't have to pay for her! I hope your other dates will go better in the future.
At least the money you would have spent on the dinner can go towards a girl with a sense of humor !
Um, the person who asks for the date pays. It's a simple rule of etiquette. That being said, she sounds like a bitch. Next.
I disagree. Even if you're asked on the date, you should always offer to help pay, or pay for another part of the date (such as pay for the movies after diner or whatnot.) A date is not an excuse to get a free meal and anyone who views it as such is a user. The girl was clearly trying to use him and at least the OP found out before he wasted his money on her.
Use him? Hah. Like anyone with a tiny bit of dignity would go out on a date just to get a free meal. Besides, I think she has a life, and thus has better things to do with her time than going out with random joes. Maybe if she was even slightly attracted to him, she might have smiled at the bad joke or not even asked that question at all (which she most likely asked because she had a bad experience in the past with some cheap guy who posted a FML some weeks ago...) If the OP was so madly in love with her, he should at least try and convince her to do something she wasn't quite interested in doing. He failed to impress her. He lost that chance.
"If I order the lobster, does that automatically mean I have to sleep with you?" **You'd be surprised how some think.
These types of dating rituals crack me up. What is wrong with just having a dinner to see if you like each other without making a point of who pays for what and whether that should equal intimacies? It's about a potential relationship, not a business transaction...
And that is why I always offer to help pay. I don't want to have to worry about how much he has to pay for my food. Often guys won't let you pay on first dates, but you can at least be the one to pay the tip or pay for the movies after the meal (if it's diner and a movie). It's 2012. Women make their own money so old dating rituals don't really apply anymore.