By Anonymous - 01/03/2014 18:46 - United States - San Francisco
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Well you dodged a bullet there. Hopefully it didn't cost too much.
Not sure if sarcasm or actually that archaic... Even if the guy generally does pay, you still at least genuinely attempt to go halvsies, I mean its your food. What if he seriously can't afford to pay for two and he's too embarrassed to say so? If you offer, accepting is a lot less embarrassing than having to ask because the other person is a bitch. Never assume you're getting anything for free.
If a guy takes me on a date to anywhere...I expect that he pays. Maybe I'm a spoiled brat in that aspect (and I know I'll get thumbed down because of it lol) However, I'm perfectly fine with (actually prefer) dates where you don't have to pay anything. Picnics, taking the dogs to the dog park, skipping rocks by the river...or whatever else we can come up with. I'll even cook and bring food/snacks.
Not because she didn't want a second date, but because of the way she went about it. It's very rude to leave a date like that. There's a perfectly polite way to decline a second date: "I had a nice time with you tonight, but to be honest I don't think we have that connection, I feel like we'd be better as friends." Then you stay until the bill comes, offer to split it, walk out with your date, thank him for a nice evening, and wish him goodnight.
No, because she just walked out on him without offering to pay. Even if she wasn't interested in doing this again, she could have offered to pay part or politely said, it was nice meeting you, but no thanks. Hopefully OP's and this girl's mutual friend hears so he doesn't set her up again.
If women are going to push for equality, and become more independent, why should men continue to have to pay? Granted I personally do, and will continue to pay at least on the first couple dates with someone new, but it's very reasonable that a self-sufficient person pay for themselves.
I don't get why the hell feminists yell about men receiving 20 cents more, when in the case of a sinking ship or a burning building, it's "Women and children first!". It's just a 20 cent charge for all the special treatment! Besides that, men do the more difficult labor jobs, and yeah, get better pay because of that. Obviously this isn't true for all women, but it is for 99% of them. I don't see any women digging trenches with me at work.
True, but if you're going to be going on more dates then the chances of relatively evening out eventually or combining finances is likely to happen, really I spent the most money early in our relationship until I lost my job, then she did for a month or two, then we decided it was just our money (actually that might have happened before I lost my job)
I would tell my friend what happened, maybe they can tell her how much of a bitch she was
Personally if it was a good first date I think you should pay or if it wasn't at least split the price. Not be a bitch and leave....
what an awkward moment.. op: ok lets determine how the bill should be paid. did you enjoy yourself or not? because if you say you didnt I will be asking you to pay for it. obviously its not cool to walk off the way this person did but itd also be pretty awkward to plab ahead for too
I wasnt being literal nor suggesting thats how to do it...more so pointing out how awkward it is to go by that logiv because how else are you to know if they enjoyed the date.. if said date had not enjoyed the time like ops date then the type of person in the fml is not going to want to pay, so when asked to split the bill if they didnt enjoy it will say they did. also offering the chance to say how much do I owe doesn't work as the date clearly wasnt planning on paying anyway. you read my reply wrong as I was pointing out the flaws in that situation not suggesting to do it.