By Yupppp. - 11/02/2015 06:25 - United States - Flushing
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But what happens if he'd got it from a former relationship/fling and has only just found out about it himself? Symptoms don't always show themselves straight away if ever. Possibly someone he slept with only found out when they went for screening, contacted him to say it's a possibility so he got checked and was tested positive... anything could happen! :)
I agree that it's good he told her, but he kind of told her in a stupid way. He phoned her and told her he had an early valentines gift for her. I don't think he should be making a joke out of something like that, especially considering op's life has now been completely turned upside down. That's the reason I'd reconsider the relationship. He should've sat down and had a serious conversation with her in my opinion. News like that would be hard to hear.
No reason to dump him. He probably had it from a previous fling/relationship and didn't know (as symptoms can be hidden or slow to show). He told her, he was upfront and honest. It's scary and embarrassing but these things can happen. Luckily it's a treatable STD and she might not even have it (if it's a new relationship, I'd like to believe they were still using condoms until they were tested. That's what I always did. Safe sex is the best sex in the long run).
Well to be fair there's not enough information in the fml to say it was "clearly" intentional or not but that's for op to decide, however it is curable and therefore probably not worth the time. Just get treated and if it was accidental and not from cheating don't have sex till your both free of the disease.