By Anonymous - 04/01/2014 23:13 - Canada - Hamilton
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15- it sickens me that you claim to "love and study psychology" yet don't even take into account another human being's emotions. Guys don't have as strong of feelings as girls but we're still human and feel every emotion girls do. If anything, crying every once in a while and actually showing your emotions makes you more of a man because you're not afraid to get in touch with your "sensitive side", so to speak. Don't be so quick to think less of someone simply for being human and automatically think you're better than them.
Wow. Your dad really did have your boyfriends balls to the wall if he was able to do that within minutes. I guess growing a new pair is no longer an option either when it comes to your father.
I don't think your Dad should do that to your bf. Tell him to show you, his daughter a bit of trust in the fact that you have good taste in a boyfriend and you don't need him to emasculate him. Unless you are under sixteen, then he can help you... But not by reducing the poor guy to tears.
Perhaps she has horrible tastes in boyfriends and her Daddy bringing him to tears was the closest thing to a respectful thought the boy has had in years? That said, when someone comes into my house pants sagging and pretending to be hard, I too like making them cry in minutes, just for fun.
All these FMLs give me good ideas for what to do when my future kids start dating.
Doesn't work. All it'll do is encourage your daughters to date leftover scum that don't get intimidated by asshole fathers. Raise your daughter to want to date a good guys and setting up a great relationship with her! "Fathers, be good to your daughters Daughters will love like you do Girls become lovers who turn into mothers So mothers, be good to your daughters too"
Maybe your dad was pointing out that you shouldn't date such wimps who A. can't stand up for themselves. B. can't take the pressure. C. cry.
I have dated men who lived by the standard "I am so manly I don't cry, show three emotions, and am not a wimp." But you know what? Fuck it. I was so sick of being the only one trying in the relationship, having someone unable to connect with me on an emotional level, and feeling like I was constantly in the middle of a dick flex battle. I dated a guy who would sometimes cry when he was stressed, told me all about his emotions, and didn't mind forgoing sex for cuddling. And the reaction I got from people was "he is a wimp" and "he needs to grow a pair." He was the best boyfriend I have ever had and sadly we drifted apart, but became great friends. I would be so lucky to date a guy who is honest about his emotions.
I feel like that is a bit unfair. Maybe Op shared things about her boyfriend and the father used them to his advantage? Not everyone is able to deal with a barrage of vile insults. Just because he cried does not mean he is a wimp or deserves to be considered less than a man. I think Op needs to have a nice talk with her father about this behavior and not bring other men around. I feel for the boyfriend, if it had been a girl crying no one would be saying anything.
Lol sorry but if you think men who cry when a stranger talks to them in a derogatory manner for a few minutes are "sensitive" you are way off base. Men like that are complete children who still need mamas teat. A guy should be able to stand up for himself and those he cares about, if he can't he isn't much of a man. Also a guy can be sensitive without being a wuss, OPs boyfriend just sounds like a wuss.
14, so just because op's boyfriend happens to be male that means he shouldn't be allowed to show normal human emotions? Wow. What a pleasant person you must be. I'd much rather be with someone who can actually show/tell me how they're feeling, as opposed to someone who refuses to do so in order to be "manly".
Ummm, ok I get that guys should say how they feel my bf does but I also don't want my dad to just hand me over, to dads they're little girls are like gems and aren't going to hand them over easy, and yea making the bf cry wasn't nice but you have to see it from his pov, he may of said it was for fun but he's just being a dad, personally my bf would just play back for the fact he knows how my dad is. I think op should of told her dad to back off but the bf should of been informed of how the dad is.
Tell ya what if a "boyfriend" of one of my nieces or female cousins came over and was such a pussy that he started crying over the shit we talk about every new boyfriend.... He would be immediately rejected as an insecure POS not worthy of being a member of the family. This chicks BF sounds exactly like that type of wuss.