We're not assholes, we're practical. Sex is a very important part of a romantic relationship. It's completely natural. Until you get into weird fetishes anyway.

@ 19: Even weird fetishes are natural, seems like most people have at least one or two tucked away somewhere... @ OP: Who even does that anymore? I thought even nuns were getting some action in the modern world... Time to have a conversation where you note the fact that sex is an important part of a normal, healthy relationship, and if she can't understand that it's time to part ways. Of course, this could just be her way of breaking up with you..

It means that she's deciding for both of them that an important part of a romantic relationship is off limits. If she can't compromise with the OP, they need to break up.

My logic is not faulty. I just suck at communicating ideas. And you suck at following logic. Romantic relationships grow and evolve. If someone takes a step backwards in the relationship it's a bad sign.

no you just dont understand his logic

fail. sex and marriage are totally interchangeable

I didn't call all of the guys asses. I just said that guys who are telling the OP to dump his girlfriend just because she doesn't want to have sex are the asses. I'm not one of those people who chose to wait, but if the OPs girlfriend wants to wait, then he should respect that, and not dump her. I don't understand why my comment got burried.

Wanting to wait for marriage to have sex is perfectly fine if thats your choice. However, going from a sexually active couple to a non-sexually active couple is not acceptable without the consent of both parties. It's a team effort. If she wants to make her own choices, he's free to make his.

Did you know that in most parts of the world, your mom/dad pick out honorable women with good manners for you to pick from & marry? You go out on a few dates with the ones you like, but you don't kiss/touch. Then you say which one you like the most & you get married to her. And as it turns out, they're still married to eachother & faithful. So you don't need sex before marriage, cause the more you want it, the more chance of being unfaithful. & Grammer Nazis, I wrote "properly" this time so bugg off -.-

You forget to mention that in many of those countries, like the third world ones where marriage is often arranged (Afghanistan, for example), infidelity is a crime worthy of humiliation, social rejection, possibly even physical abuse and death. This doesn't always just mean for the cheater, either. The person who consented to sleep with a married person could be killed, and the person whose spouse was unfaithful could also be shamed. Saying arranged marriages are examples of healthy relationships isn't a very accurate statement when several of those countries are either brainwashed from birth to follow tradition or terrified of the consequences of doing as they please.

You teenage fool, are a complete and utter fail, grow up and stop smoking whatever you are smoking, it will help with the paranoid stupidity.

lol good point

Most likely. It could be OP wasn't clear enough. There's a difference between wanting to remain abstinent until marriage for religious reasons and wanting to be chaste until death and expecting your partner to be thrilled with the news. If it's the second thing, **** his life. He should tell her to find someone asexual because he might not want to be abstinent forever.

Bullshit. It's her body, not his. They are not married (though, arguably, even if they were it's still not his decision) and he has absolutely no claim on her body or actions what so ever.

Yep too right... and by the same coin, it's his commitment to stay in the relationship, not hers. If it's enough reason for him to tell her to take a hike and not come back, that HIS decision and nobody else's, and she has absolutely no claim on his actions or anyone else's. Isn't it cool, how it works both ways?

ahhh. i have found my exboyfriends fml! well you have the same name and same ideas anyways. OP: im a girl and if someone tool away my sex i'd kick them to the curb. i advise you to do the same.