By Anonymous - 21/10/2020 14:02

Forever the bridesmaid

Today, after watching my roommate and her boyfriend be all lovey dovey for months, I now have to watch two of our other friends flirting as well. I'm painfully single and have been struggling to change that for years. FML
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By  Jaymail  |  17

I don’t think she meant “watching them”. Since op is her roommate she can’t help to see it. Same thing with her friends. A better way for her to have put it would’ve been for her to say she “sees” them. Rather than “watches” them. I’ve been guilty of not always wording things the best way myself.

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  Jaymail  |  17

I don’t think she meant “watching them”. Since op is her roommate she can’t help to see it. Same thing with her friends. A better way for her to have put it would’ve been for her to say she “sees” them. Rather than “watches” them. I’ve been guilty of not always wording things the best way myself.

By  Chazzster  |  20

OP, I think the standard advice is to do an honest self-inventory. Obviously what you have been doing isn’t working that well. Figure out the kind of person you want to be and take steps in that direction. Also look into interests or activities that are still possible during these times that would let you meet the kind of person you want to meet and who would be interested in you. Finally, just as you would want to be judged for the kind of person you are and not purely on your looks - Likewise look at others in that way.

Avoid being clingy or coming off as desperate - that turns people off. Also I suggest avoiding the “meat markets” like Tinder or bars as it’s rare that long term relationships come from there.

One last thing - Dating is a skill. It’s not born in you. Talk to someone you trust who can help you.