By Distraught - 01/03/2011 21:08 - Reserved
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1 Shut the F*ck up!! That is really not something you say to anyone EVER! My Brother-in-law, husband and I are all in the military and you have no idea how hard it is when they are overseas and all you can do is worry and wait for them to return. the only way to go into a deployment is with hope that they will return safe! Also, for the ass holes saying it is our job to get shot. NO the HELL it's not!!! Especially since my husband and I are Medics! You think it is the medics job to take a bullet for someone? No, it's our job to patch up and save people wether they are US military or afghan/ Iraq citizens! I can't believe some of the people on this site!
Actually, it's more like "you get paid to do as you're told, regardless of whether or not the so-called enemy has done anything wrong, and even if killing these people has the same effect on your home country as leaving them alive." Let's not live in a false reality where war always has a sensible reason, especially if we're discussing Americans. Regardless, ydi, op. You should know better than to expect a stable, normal lifestyle when you're an army wife. If you want that then just leave the poor guy so he can find a wife who can step up to the task. No need to be a bitchy, needy pest. Even if his career weren't in the picture, most people who aren't mooching off of their SO can afford an apartment of some sort - there's this insane, new concept called a 'job', you know? Do you think every person who doesn't live with someone else is stuck with their parents lol?
when you're an "army wife," minor/major setbacks is what you will have to deal with. It wont be easy.
They only provide for a spouse, not a girlfriend/boyfriend or fiancée. OP, if you guys get a courthouse marriage before he deploys, then get a real one afterward, the army would give you an allowance for rent or even military housing in the meantime. If not, he's still getting paid while he's deployed, he could still send his portion of the rent to you every month. That's what he would (hopefully) be doing if you were already married. If he's not willing to, you might want to rethink your engagement.
Where are you getting double the pay for deployments? You must be a very gullible person if you think military pays that well. When deployed you dont pay federal taxes- but you still pay social security and medicare. You may get an extra $225 Imminent Danger Pay a month, but thats really the only difference from pay stateside versus deployment
169: military gets paid at least double while in a combat zone. Some get paid almost triple depending on if they have a spouse and the number of dependents. If they are already engaged then why doesn't he just make it final and get paid a whole lot more while over seas? OP either has a bad fiancee or she is just stupid!
178-Being an army wife, I would love to see double or triple pay. We have three kids and have been married for over a decade and we get basic, (all soldiers) bah (soldiers with dependents, one or twenty it stays the same depending on rank and years in) bas (all soldiers) and cola (which is based on how many dependents, but is only for certain areas, like AK). While deployed (once and going again) he gets separation pay (married soldiers get this, flat pay of 250) hazard pay (100, all soldiers) and possibly hdp (125 all soldiers in specified zones) and no taxes federal or state taxes taken out. So WHERE do you see double or triple? They get, on average in a red zone, maybe 750 extra for deploying. If you go to a green zone, you don't get two of the pays, knocking that 750 down to 525 extra. Been there, done that
chillinAK is the most correct, most of these answers are extremely wrong and some are just ignorant. BAH, separation pay, hazard pay, etc are all standard amounts but they are based on rank and where you live at home.... not the same for all soldiers. Separation pay is given for each dependent, not just to spouses or children. and BAS is given to soldiers not their dependents. the amount varies per soldier but will not double a salary although some come close, especially with special qualifications (ie foreign language, airborne, etc)
My fiancé gave me access to his account while he was deployed... Been married 4 years now, 2 deployments and 2 kids. He's navy, so things may vary a little, but he should be making MORE while deployed, so even without giving her his check he could easily send her a check for rent or something. This sounds fishy, tbh. Does she just not want to live alone but is ashamed to admit it? Did her fiancé lie about how much he makes? Sounds like they have some major issues to work out, because as written this isn't even close to right :/
i cant believe the things people are saying on here. i am an army wife and i am very proud! you civilians no nothing about the military world, until you serve. so shut your mouth if you have nothing nice to say.
Military spouses are civilians,but we go through more than most people realize or even go through.Cut us some slack.We have to worry 24/7 while they're deployed about a lot of things.I didn't realize how hard deployments were until I went through one with my husband.
Not to be a super bitch or anything, but if you're going to troll, couldn't you have just picked out that instead of 'know' she said 'no'? Anyway, y'all are asses, god forbid you lose someone you care about and actually have to face what these ladies live in fear of on a daily basis.
"you civilians"? You're a military wife, last time I checked, you're a civilian too. You're nothing special. I've served in the military & been deployed, you don't know what WE have been through. Just b/c you married military, doesn't mean you know what it's like, regardless of what your "hubby" tells you. You have NO idea. Its people like YOU that make the military look bad. Sorry, try again.
Yea, you really have no right to be lecturing us. Also chances are that most people have a friend or family member in the service, so don't sound so high and mighty because you married one, think about all the other thousand of people who have fathers, mothers, sons, daughters, and life long friends over there.
u don't gotta be a woman to have a significant other in the army just sayin I was in and got out from heart disease but my fiancé is still in but since I'm out I'm still a civi. just sayin I'm basically an army wife in man form and still a civi even tho I'm discharged after 4 years of service...
I know what you mean. some "Americans" need to get the heck out of this country. it irritates me when people sit during the pledge of allegiance or talk bad about the military. if it wasn't for the military we would all be some British faggot talking about tea and crumpets and cry if we get dirt on our fingertips.
144- you were enlisted, so im sure you understand what its like being in the military, regardless of if you're a civilian now. my point is that if you marry into the military, it doesnt mean you know what its like unless you've served. and calling others "civilian" like shes higher than everyone since shes an army wife is disgraceful. she deserves a reality check.
If you weren't so quick to be defensive you would see they criticizing her reaction to the situation, not the situation itself. Don't be so self righteous in your own pride to blindly defend someone who is obviously leaving shit out of her fml just to make it something to complain about.
Wow. I am an Army wife as well. So? I am no more special than anyone else. Do you think you're cool because you called everyone else 'civilians'? Well, look in the mirror, hunny, because if you aren't in a military uniform, you are a civilian, too...Now if you threw in a little more awesome military lingo, I might think you're cool and special.
And apparently army wives don't KNOW how to use proper English, let alone your snooty ways of looking on "civilians." Why do military people think they are SO much better than non-military? Especially the army wives. Where the hell do you get off talking about "civilians," when you pretty much are one too?!
Not all military wives are like this. Hell, I won't even talk to most military spouses because they are straight scandalous. Although married to the army, I'm a civilian. But, to the poster who sounds like a major snob, if your husband has rank, do you wear it too? You are probably the lady at the PX register asking "Do you know who my husband is?". We are no better then the civilian women - we just have more worries then the average spouse.
Ok "army wife" your a civilian your self...once you go to basic training and got to AIT like the rest of us soldiers did then talk.. I have been in the military for a few years now and am also married a soldier. Once thing i can't stand about some "army wives" is you think the world owes you something. You think your husband is a "hero" well you know what so are officers, EMTs, firefighters. I dont think you know anything about the military world until you serve..just like you said... you only know what your husband tells you. Hopefully all these comments people are replying to you is a wake up call that you need to get off your high horse. I dont go off telling people .. i'm a soldier and an "army wife so give me attention" hell no... people like you piss me off.