By Duplighost - 12/01/2012 20:16 - United States
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79- It isn't that Marines are prone to violence.. It's that fathers are protective of their daughters.. ESPECIALLY when she is caught NAKED with her punk ass boyfriend who is stupid enough to mess around with her while her parents are home.. If I were the Dad, the boy wouldn't have been able to post the FML about what happened.
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Well duh! That's a stupid question. Teenagers are going to have sex. It's inevitable. There is nothing parents can do about it anymore. (With child protective services and confidentiality laws, a girl could be pregnant or have an STD, and, by law, doctors can NOT tell the parents.) But the kids could AT LEAST have some damn respect! I, still to this day, have never, or will never have sex or mess around in my parents house! It's so disrespectful and disgusting, if you ask me! But hey, the younger generation may be bad, but we have to remember who raised it, I guess..
146- You need to re-read my comment. I said that people are going to have sex. It's inevitable. You can't avoid it. And, unfortunately, the starting age is getting younger and younger.. BUT if you're going to have sex, you can do it elsewhere than your parents house! I did not say that you can't have sex until you move out. I said do it elsewhere. I also said that that is the great thing about growing up. You have your own house to have sex in whenever and wherever you want! But until you get your own house, have some damn respect and don't have sex in your parents house! Now THAT is what I said! It is utterly ridiculous to think that I said you can't have sex until you move out! Taking things out of context will get you nowhere. Read my comment thoroughly before you question me about what I said.
152- Sorry for coming off like that. Most of the time, when I make a comment, somebody always wants to make a rebuttal to what I said and I was just making sure. I'll debate with anyone any day, anytime.. But I won't argue. Especially over the Internet. :) So I agree with you. But I fully agree with the flip-side-of-the-coin thing. The daughter would be in HUGE trouble, if I were the Dad. Probably in more trouble because she knew my rules and broke them anyway. Also because she full-fledged disrespected me in my own damn house! But that's only if I were the Dad. I'm a little bit old fashioned though. :)
174 Could you please elaborate on how having sex is disrespectful? I really don't see the connection there, but then most people where I live have a more open relaxed way of viewing these things. Personally, unless I had to clean the shit up after or it inhibited me in some way, I wouldn't object to it.
Dammit people!! Having sex is not disrespectful or not allowed or derogatory in any way, shape, or form!! (I'd prefer it if 13 year olds weren't doing it. But Hey, that's just my opinion!) What I am saying is DISRESPECTFUL is having sex in your parents house! And it is! Having sex isn't disrespectful. But in your parents house, it is!!! How many times do I have to explain it? I mean, c'mon!! Read the comments THOROUGHLY before you question me about what I said! Because, obviously, you didn't read them, if that's what you got from what I said. Use your noggin and re-read my previous comments. Once again,(and, hopefully, the last time I have to explain it) Having sex is NOT disrespectful!!! But having sex in your PARENTS HOUSE is!!!
207- Actually, your EXACT words were, "Could you please elaborate on how having sex is disrespectful?" Never once did you say anything about 'in the parents house'.. And honey, opinions are like assholes. Everyones got one. And for you to insult mine just makes your opinion look immature and childish. You asked the damn question! So I answered it for you. You wanted me to "elaborate" for you, so I did. Apparently it wasn't the answer you wanted. So while you're throwing out insults, pucker up and kiss my ass. I answered your question and you didn't like the answer. There's nothing more I can do for you. :)
For the person who asked how many times I'm going to comment, I'll comment as much as I fucking want to. Hence the 'reply' button. That button means I can do so as much as I want for as long as I want. I hope you like seeing my face! :) And the other commenter who's talking about people having sex in their parents house being okay or what not. You may have a friend who's parents are just so kind to make 'special time' for their teenage daughter in their house, but most parents aren't like that. And I don't care how many parents allow their children to have sex in their home, it's still rude and very disrespectful. Like I said earlier, you can't blame the younger generation for how they act. Blame the people who raised it. And kudos to the parents who are raising their children right!!
237- Parents are entitled to raise their offspring the way they want to. We aren't supposed to all conform to the same "right" style of parenting. If we all did that, our kids would all be clones. And that would be freakish. Letting teens have designated sexy time in the house is really not a bad thing. Most teens have sex in highschool, and if they aren't allowed to have it at their house, they'll find other, way worse environments to do so. Such as parks, bathrooms, cars & cheap hotel rooms. Good parents make sure kids have and are using condoms AND birth control. Kids SHOULD be able to trust at least one of their parents to ask for help accessing appropriate contraceptives. If they aren't available to teens, they can contract lifelong diseases. Or get pregnant. I really don't think that parents encouraging their kids to have sex in SAFE places, with partners they know is a bad thing. Unless they don't assure that its protected sex.
I don't want to sound stupid but why is it disrespectful to have sex in you parents house? And if it is where is sex supposed to happen? Also, there is no right or wrong way to bring up children in this particular question because disrespect is an opinion, some people find it disrespectful and others don't. Therefore, since it is an opinion based thing, if the parents condone it, sex in their house is not disrespectful. Finally, technically since respect (in this particular question especially) is a matter of opinion, there is no right or wrong answer, just depends on the parents and how liberal, how free-thinking they want themselves and their children to be. If that logic makes any sense. Also, I agree with 213, and would only add that the parents should condone it as well because it is their house. I also agree fully with 254.
No offense desireev, but I kinda got the impression that you were really jumping at people for their responses. For example, mistaking 133's comment as a potential argument when it was clearly harmless, going off the wall on downtime's question and taking it as an insult to your opinion when he/she was just stating his own opinion and asking for clarification. My point: chill, not everyone's out there to try to start an argument with you, and clearly none of those people were with the possible exception of 163, who basically voiced what I have to say here more bluntly. But you did not have to meet his comment in the way you did; learn to fight fire with water, not just fire. Most people were merely asking questions and voicing their own opinions.
Continuing what I was saying... desireev If you're calling yourself a person that "never makes arguments online" but is " always ready to debate," then I recommend you only start debating with others when you know what debating means. It does not mean taking other people's comments personally and then bashing on them for "insulting your opinion" when they were not. It means acting more receptive of what people have to say.
Desireev - where would you want people to have sex then? Surely having sex in the privacy of your own bedroom is more respectful than having sex in a movie theatre, or down at the local park...are you suggesting that you should not have sex until you own your own house? It's not as if we are condoning going at it right on the dining room table during the middle of dinner, obviously some discretion is involved...
So I guess you're saying it's better that the young people that live at home are having sex outside, in public and at parties? I agree that 13 would be young, but parents shouldn't go and interrupt your private life like that, maybe just talk to their kids about safe sex and such. My dad was open about it and suggested that we should go the GP to get birth control pills when I was 14/15, which is way better than trying to stop your kids from having sex, it won't happen.
Sex in a parents house is disrespectful because it is their house and their rules. If they have said they don't want you having sex there and you do, it's a sign of disrespect to them. It's fine if your parents are ok with it, but most parents I know aren't. As for where to have sex, my dear children, it's called a motel. You can rent them as low as $40 a day- the same price you'd pay for a dinner out or a trip to the movies- less then you pay for the theatre. There are also very untraveled stairwells if you don't want to shell out cash, of you know where to look. Handy? Build a treehouse- with locks.
37- SO DID EVERYONE ELSE!! Why does everyone say that?? Everybody saw it! Does it mean that they feel special when they see it? Or that they want a reward for it? A cookie? A golden star? A celebratory party?! *BREAKING NEWS* You do NOT get a reward when you see a pun on the Internet! The only thing you receive is the satisfaction of knowing that you're not a COMPLETE IDIOT! :)
134, I feel sorry for you. You're such an angry person. Seriously, you should look into some anger management classes or a prescription for Prozac or something before you end up with an ulcer. For your own sake, get help. I'm sure you're now going to rage at me, but it doesn't matter because I only ever use this on my iPhone and don't ever bother to sort through the comments to check for replies.
More like YDI for being COMPLETELY disrespectful and messing around in your parents house. That is the reward of GROWING UP! You can mess around in your OWN HOME whenever you want! Until then, have some respect for the people who pay your bills, feed your ass, and put you on this earth!
135, you sound completely stupid. It's normal, not disrespectful. Not to say that just because it's normal that the dad should allow it, but it's what everyone should expect when their kid gets a certain age. I can't even comprehend the reason why anyone should wait for stuff like that till they pay their own bills, those things have nothing in common.
190 What if ops girl is still in HS? She's just a little girl, would you as a parent think it would be fine catching your little girl doing very adult things? I would be PISSED plus he pays the bills his house his rules. Want to live by your own rules? Buy your own place pay your own bills. Have respect for your parents. I completely agree with what 135 said.
235 I do not disagree with what you had previously posted. In my opinion I'm still a child at 19 years old. The point of my statement is that her father obviously sees her as his little girl and wouldn't want her to do that. Not to mention they broke his trust and disrespected him by doing that.
235-However, according to the law in the U.S., "adult" is often defined as 18 years of age or older. Thus, despite your sixteen-year-old body being an adult biologically, legally you are not, and unless you are legally emancipated from your parents at an age younger than 18 year old and still in your parents' custody, you should still obey your parents' rules. And I have to agree with the point desireev has been trying to make: if you live under your parents' roof, no matter your age, give your parents respect and refrain from having sex in their home.
There's so much more to becoming an adult than just "starting your period." There's maturity, emotional intelligence, financial readiness, etc. In our society, we have 18 years of schooling that the government deems necessary to mature and properly ready for the world around them. Other countries that have a younger adult age tend to be poorer and less educated. Possibly because of the needed help to survive, they must also work at a younger age. Biologically goes through a lot of changes during adolescence, being very formative years and is a crucial period of development, where it says teens often lack judgement because the area in the prefrontal lobe that controls for less impulsive behaviors is developing. So, yes, it is necessary for parents to actually parent their children through this phase of development.
294 exactly on point. If I were her father I would be pissed of as well. Yes sex is natural do it have fun with your life what ever floats your boat but do it when you are a mature adult and are able to think rationally. Most HS kids are unable to do so why do you think MTV has a show called teen pregnancy or whatever it's really called. Now if you walked in on your daughter messing around with her boyfriend under your own household wouldn't you lose trust in her? Also to top it off he's known to op as a marine so wouldn't messing around with his daughter in HIS house say RED ALERT!? Idk that just seems like common sense to me but I'm way more old fashioned than most people are nowadays. Oh well just my two cents on this
313 I'm old fashioned like you. I've been known and labeled the prude at my old HS but at least I wasn't one of the other girls getting kicked out of school for being pregnant (yes my school actually did that so it wouldn't get a bad rep. They would send those girls to a continuation school in the main HS or if they didn't want Togo they would completely change schools.) I believe in earning respect from your parents. I mean hell they put a rough over my head keep my belly full and give me good educational opportunities so ya I would do my best to pay them back. :)
I know whatcha mean! :) I was "the prude" and "the goody-two-shoes" in my school. It was really hard on me, at the time. But now I'm so thankful for my parents raising me the way they did. And I'm thankful for the fact that I was that way in HS. I feel like it paid off for me. I feel like it made me a good person. :)
I am not thinking that 281 is saying it's not disrespectful I feel they are saying that it depends on the parent like me with my kids I do not like them saying words such as crap suck fart butt or dang I feel it is disrespectful now my sister with her daughter find no problem with it at all so therefore doesn't find it disrespectful respect isn't fact based it's opinion based so if ppl have to agree to disagree then fine do it that how a lot of debates turn out anyway I love to see views expressed in an adult fashion and classy way and by what I have read from some they totally missed the boat on it P.s I didn't proof read and iPhones suck so I apologize for any mistakes :)
135- I am quite offended that you called me 'stupid'. I believe that I am quite far from stupid. And I have done nothing to show that I am stupid. So if you could refrain from throwing out labels, I'd really appreciate it. That being said, I'll move on to the next subject. Never once did I say in any of my comments that sex isn't normal and it shouldn't be done. I love having sex! I have it every single day! I have a child. So I have had sex.. And lots of it. But I'm also an adult and I've paid my dues and I have earned the right to, if you will.
And I have only ever had sex with one person and that is the father of my beautiful son. I don't "sleep around" or "have naked fun". Sex is an amazing thing and I hope that everyone is able to do it one day. But not when they are 13, 15, even 16. They obviously live under their parents roof for a reason. If they were able to handle adult responsibilities like having sex, paying bills, full-time job, etc.. They would have their own house at that young age. But they don't. They are not mature enough to do so.
In this world today, it is asking alot to ask young people not to have sex. So I, nor will anyone else, ask them to stop having sex. But they could, at least, not do it in their parents house. I don't care what anybody says.. No parent wants to see their child having sex! Especially in their own home. But the world has become what it has become and parents, at this point, are just trying to make sure their kids are safe by giving them condoms, birth control, etc.. They know they can't stop their kids from doing it, so at least make sure they're doing it safely.
The absolute lowest the 'sex age' is anywhere is 16 years old. And that is with parental consent and the other person must be within 3 years of age. (3 years older because it's "illegal" for anyone under 16 to have sex.) There are a lot of stipulations to the matter. And if 16 was old enough to have sex, then there wouldn't be so many stipulations to it, would there?
How did they broke his trust by having sex? Did he force them to promise him they won't have sex or what? And kids are not your fucking property just because you pay the bills. You wanted children and once you have them it's YOUR OBLIGATION to take care of them and provide for them. They don't owe you shit. Ofc parents will have rules and they are needed but if you want a slave or have total control over someone then don't have kids and just play The Sims. I don't know how your parents raised you that you think being intimate with your partner is considered taboo, disrespectful. I would prefer my children having a place where they can have sex safely and have them informed about contraception and safe sex rather than forbidding them intimacy inside the house, keeping them uninformed about it and depriving them of their privacy and healthy relationships. OP's partner's father is a lunatic and all he did with his actions is push his daughter away from him. Now she knows she can't confide in him about her relationships and she'll just find another place to have sex, where people won't invade her privacy.
10- OR show some damn respect by not fucking around in the house that is not yours to do so in!! It is OPs PARENTS HOUSE!! NOT HERS! And locking the door is only saying, "Hey parents! F**K YOU! I know that this is your house and that you don't want me having sex or messing around in it.. But I'm going to lock the door and do it anyway! Thanks for doing everything under the sun for me, but I'm going to completely disrespect you anyway!"
I have never post so much on FML but come on calm down with ur cussing and Capitol letters you are taking this stuff like it was ur daughter and they slapped u in the face with a pregnancy test ur going on about respect but ur showing very little yourself if you don't like a comment that is made skip it don't cuss at them and "yell" type at them come on how old are we ppl
You said not to do it in your parents' house. OP did that and somehow that is even worse? Make up your mind. While you're at it, make a list of "respectable" locations to have sex it. Or take it to the next level and decide which positions are "respectful to your parents". Maybe something like, "don't face the direction of your home while sucking a dick because it is disrespectful"?
No cavity search? You're getting off easy.
If your girl's worth, it's worth it.