Of course if you said yes because you were a little tipsy YDI.

She may have rejected him the first time around because she wasn't ready to get married YET. If she was still with him a month later, she obviously still had faith in the relationship.

Some people do not plan to marry ever. Are they forbidden to have a serious relationship? Of course you should not deceive your partner but tell him your true opinion on marriage. However you do not know what OPs story is so I do not think you should judge her too harshly.

54- I agree with you. Though neither side has enough info to really judge. (That's how most FMLs are.) But why would someone plan to not marry, but still want a serious relationship? That's stupid for several reasons. It's leading the other on especially if they want to be married. Being married also has legal benefits to it. If you want to live with someone for the rest of your life, why not have the legal benefits? Plus that ring on your finger represents that you are taken and wards off others from flirting. It's illogical not to get married if you love someone to the point of wanting to be with them forever.

85, have you ever been in a serious, long-term relationship? You don't just get married as soon as you fall in love, that's ridiculous. There are certain things that need to be in place in order for marriage to be a logical option. Stable jobs, a stable living arrangement, stable finances... If any one of these things (or a bunch of other factors) isn't just right, marriage wouldn't make sense and would not be beneficial to the couple, regardless of how committed to each other they are.

130- I am currently in a very serious, long term relationship and we do plan on getting married. ASAP, in fact. I know someone, a relative, who has gotten married after only 3 months of dating. They have been happily married for 15 years now and would only part by death. One of them was not financially stable but they didn't care, because they loved each other. Everything turned out perfectly. Besides, being engaged is saying that you plan to marry the other. If a couple loves each other and they agree to marry when life becomes "easy" for them, that would be an engagement. It's planning the stable home, solving the financial problems, getting stable job, and etc.

So I have to plan to marry every guy I date? We have no idea how old the OP and her boyfriends are and we have no idea what their whole situation is. If she doesn't feel like she's in a place where marriage is the best option, she shouldn't agree to an engagement even if she loves him and even if she hopes to marry him one day. Usually when you get engaged you set a date for the wedding. Indefinite engagements are stressful and put unnecessary pressure on a relationship, especially if one partner is more eager to marry than the other.

I think you're an idiot.

#85, I have to oppose you on this point. Some people simply don't agree with marriage, for whatever reasons. This opinion doesn't suddenly mean they should be alone, or jumping from one relationship to another. It is more than possible that a couple can be perfectly content for a long time and unmarried, with no desire *to* marry. Although I do agree with you; both partners need to be honest with each other on where they stand on marriage. All in all, marriage isn't necessarily the common denominator in relationships anymore and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

That's a bit ridiculous. It is possible to stay together without marrying. Some people simply oppose idea of marriage due to personal beliefs, but they still can happily live together with their partner.