By Anonymous - 18/04/2012 19:18 - United Kingdom - Eynsham
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Most women (about 50-60%) do not bleed the first time and a lot do not feel pain, especially in countries where they aren't taught that they should except it to be bloody and painful. Mine didn't hurt and he was average-sized. Masturbating with more that one finger is possible for any women even if she's a virgin. You are not supposed to truly tear your hymen but stretch it. It is also not so thick and is quite elastic due to women producing estrogen. In most women (at the end of puberty especially) don't even have such a small opening. In most cases, bleeding is caused by tearing vaginal tissue (includind hymenal tissues which is a mucous membrane identical to the one inside your vagina) because the penetration has been too rough though some women have more vascularized hymens/vaginas than others. As for the pain, it is usually caused by the fact that your vaginal nerves aren't used to being stimulated, which is why masturbation can help. Also, using lube, foreplay, going slowly and being relaxed is important. In rare cases, the entrance is too small or the hymen is thick, septate or has many little holes instead of one. This requires surgical removal to avoid painful sex. Also, scientific studies have found that there were actually no real difference between a virgin women and a sexually active women until she has given birth for the first time. Virgin can have torn hymen while sexually active women can have intact hymen. Pain during the first sexual intercourse should not be the norm, it is due to centuries of myth around the female sexuality. And by the way, yes a tampon can tear the hymen, especially when used during the year of menstruating since the hymen will be thicker (estrogens again, they change everything after a while). The use of a menstrual cup can also tear the hymen (especially during removal since it's wider than a tampon). Fingers can as well. Occasionally : sports, but it's rarer. Anyway, pain is not a sign of a successful first time with a good partner.
It still really depends on the girl, not so much on myths and how you feel about the situation, I for one was absolutely comfortable, relaxed, not even thinking if it would hurt or not, he was average size and went very slow but holy crap on a cracker was it painful! I did enjoy it a lot after a few minutes in but it was by far the worst pain so far. I suppose it's since I'm so tight ( to the point I gave up on the struggle of even ever using tampons), he actually TORE me a bit D: And don't give me crap about masturbation being supposedly helpful, if that were true I'd be 110% pain free -.-
It always hurts first time, you'll get great gasms on the second time.
Uhm, tried a full body waxing last year....think I'll pass on doing that again, but I agree with Cosymonster, it must be different for everyone. Center of my chest was the worst, throat (never again!) was second, back of my triceps was third. Armpits wasn't enjoyable but tolerable and junk was just under that, at least for me it was. :p Tmi? Apologies to all, but this is fml, the land of never enough. ;) Cheers.