By babyblues - 20/11/2012 19:45 - United States - Woodhaven

Today, this guy I've been dating for a few months freaked out and called his mom crying, because I told him I might be pregnant with his baby. He is 27. I didn't even take a pregnancy test yet. FML
I agree, your life sucks 13 859
You deserved it 30 895

Add a comment

You must be logged in to be able to post comments!

Top comments

I'd freak out too. YDI

You said you were only dating for a few months. I'd be freaking out, too.

Comments

The beauty of condoms.

The beauty of a man...not a momma's boy.

This is her way of getting back at him for slapping his used condom on her face.

Unless OP and her bf are Christian.... As they consider condom are not natural so its against God's will.

Premature for sure.

I believe that's Catholics that don't believe in contraceptives. Either way, most religions teach no premarital sex, so they'd still be sinning.

The beauty of abortions

Comment moderated for rule-breaking.

Show it anyway

Yea, if you are going to sin, sin safely. Dot be silly wrap that willy, god will be angry either way.

It's probable that they didn't use one, but then again condoms break some times,so why be so condescending when we don't know for sure?

Just say no to sex, kids!!! ;D

Katholics are christans too. The other thing is called protestants. Anyway it's just weird to be against condoms!

Cover your stump before you hump!

I am currently 13 weeks pregnant thanks to "the beauty of condoms." Irrelevant, I know, but a lot of people seem to be thumbing it up for the condom comment, so I thought I'd go ahead and throw this out there.

When in doubt pull out.

29--they aren't all that Christian if they are having premarital sex.

Let me just say condoms don't work 100% of the time.

I really don't see any reason 85 is getting thumbed down. I ALWAYS stack birth control methods as I do not want to make a baby and I definitely don't wan to kill one. I am too young to have kids (21), so I always wear a condom and pull out. Even if she claims to be on the pill.

That's what my dad told me he said if your going to sin don't be a dumb sinner use protection, that was the most awkward father daughter talk ever.

Pregnant and they've been dating for only a few months? YDI

28 and 39: Catholics ARE Christian. While the original and growing Church has come to have slight distinctions, any Christian is in the Christian Church. Anyway, yes, specifically the Catholic position is against contraceptives, but Christianity's doctrine in general doesn't support fornicating.

141, well aren't you judgmental.

It's not premarital sex if you never get married. BOOM! Go ahead, thumb me down.

Don't marry someone you haven't had sex with, physical intimacy is a huuuge part of a relationship, not something you wanna gamble with. Telling you to wait until marraige is the church's way of controlling you by making you feel guilty about your natural urges :) To the OP- sorry he was so immature about the situation. The weight of a pregnancy scare should be shared by both partners, regardless whether you've taken a test or not. If you ARE pregnant, it doesn't sound like this guy is ready to stick with you through thick and thin, so best of luck...

165 churches, at least mine, say no to premarital sex because sex is not just a physical thing, it involves a lot more than just flesh. When you give it away and the relationship fails, it damages you. But your opinion is your opinion I just wanted to say not all Christians wana "control you" and "make you feel guilty"

Condoms are 98% effective in preventing pregnancy if used correctly, so yes, the beauty of condoms. (Not to say that 84, or anyone in her situation, did't know how to use one, I know accidents happen.) |: And for all of the religious rambling: "However, in late 2010 the Pope appeared to modify the Catholic Church's view on condom use. In an interview published in a new book, he seems to have said that it might be permissible to use a condom in order to prevent the transmission of infection. Various translations of this interview have appeared. The Vatican has recently tried to clarify Benedict XVI's comments, saying he meant that the use of a condom by a man or a woman to prevent HIV transfer 'could be an act of responsibility', if intended to protect life."

Most people are not using birth control right. Condoms break, the pill is not 100%, the pull out method is silly. The only 100% way to not make a baby is no sex. Now the PSA is out of the way. This guy sounds stuck on him mom. Might want to find a big boy. :)

Ok, I have to say I'm a big believer in the 'try before you buy' scheme. So to all the people calling OP a sinner? Get off you're high horse and find yourselves a partner (not a priest). The church is always changing its position on certain things, taking on new meanings to scripture etc. that's why it's so popular and successful. I guarantee before we die, our generation will see the pope handing out free condoms.

My mom used a condom, and then I was born. I don't think they work 99% of the time. I think there's a 50% chance, due to the fact that you don't always see those small holes and it only takes one sperm cell to make a baby. Either don't have sex until you can financially care for a baby, or if you trust your boyfriend, use the pullout method. I've spoken to many girls who have gotten pregnant from using condoms and birth control. I've been using the pullout method for over 3 years (since I started having sex), and still no baby. Never talked to a girl who has gotten pregnant by using that method but I'm not saying it hasn't happened either.

166- it's called living life. In life, you get heart broken. Sex isn't the same for everyone. For some people it's an act of love. For others, it could be purely for pleasure. No feelings behind it.

205, you do realize that the "pull out method" is also called "pull and pray" because when ever the penis is stroked it releases pre cum. That's more sperm cells per every time it's stroke than what gets through a tiny hole in the condom. And if you are not using spermicide with this supposed fool proof method, he might as well be doing his business in you.

unknown_user5566 26

205- Your bio says you're 17, which would mean you've been having sex since you were 14? In your words "don't have sex until you can financially take care of a baby"... Why in the world were you having sex so young? I work with so many pregnant teenagers (I work for an online high school) that I honestly just get sad when I hear about people that age having sex. You are lucky to not be pregnant yet, considering you only use he "pull out method".

Oh she's 17, explains the "pull out method" idea. I honesty thought by now at least the schools would teach something to children about safety because pregnancy isn't the only thing girls have to worry about.

Not most, just some

250- oh they do. Just most don't listen. You can easily get condoms and birth control from the health department or go to your mother and tell her that your period is heavy and painful and you need to try something like birth control to lessen it. That's how I got mine. But I actually needed it for that. The added protection will be nice when I decide to start having sex with my long term boyfriend.

I'd freak out too. YDI

I'd freak out, but I wouldn't call my mum all while bawling. I'd run out and buy her a pregnancy test and pray, pray, and pray some more that the test comes up negative.

Seriously, who wouldn't? Why do so many girls announce that they are pregnant or might be before they even take a test??

32- I think it might be a test to see how their boyfriends react to the news. Or maybe to prepare them so if the test does come back positive they knew it was a 50/50 chance. Just my guess.

33- Beacause if the girl has to have a pregnancy scare, it's only fair that the guy gets to share in the panic.

Oops. I meant 32.

45 - Freaking your boyfriend out with a pregnancy scare just to gauge their reaction is absolutely appalling behaviour.

Why would being a parent suck?? I am a mother of 3 and it's the best job in the world! People need to learn to not talk about what they don't know. And if OP's bf is freaking cause she MIGHT be pregnant chances are if she really is he won't be man enough to stick around.

Question is did the boyfriend freak out of joy or panic?

I understand whole heartedly why a guy would be completely freaked out. But, why do you assume that a woman wouldn't be? Two people were placed within this situation and perhaps the girl was scared and wanted a little support since he played a part in it as well. There are obviously wrongs and rights here, but I really don't think every woman should stress in silence about the situation if she really can't cope with it.

#87: I agree.

Why should the woman be forced to carry the anxiety of taking a pregnancy test all by herself? Why should we not bother the men with our silly troubles? Two people were involved in the sex, two people should be worried together.

I think OP expected smiles and gumdrops and exhilarating cries of "Oh, I'm so happy, hun!" Reality is far, far different...

105 -- I can relate. Sadly, I'm speaking from experience. The freakout-age is something that happens on both sides, and it seems that the woman is actually impacted more, because there could be something going on in her body that makes her think she's pregnant, thus causing the stress. Coincidentally, if while on her period, the woman is extremely stressed, it can cause prolonged period symptoms (except without the bleeding). Though I can understand that side of it, I completely disagree with her telling the dude that she's pregnant without some sort of confirmation. (FYI, I have no children.)

87- I am sure you were ready, both financially and emotionally, to start a family. In this situation, neither OP nor her boyfriend would have been prepared for the task of being parents, which everyone agrees is both time consuming and financially draining. Therefore, being a parent at that time would have sucked.

Because some girls freak out especially when they are too soon to test. I think they're just looking for support and comfort. I mean it takes two to tango. There's no reason ONLY the woman should go through the stress of worrying and waiting to find out.. The guy had just as much to (possibly) making the baby as she did.

180, there's nothing wrong with saying "I'm late, I need to take a pregnancy test," but to say "I might be pregnant with your child" is about the scariest way to phrase that. The fact that they've only be going out for a couple months makes it even worse. YDI.

OP is a bitch. Tactless, skanky, bitch

becasue the girl is also scared and freaking out even more???

It shouldn't be scary. When you become sexually active it is YOUR responsibility to know and accept that at any time you could impregnate someone. No birth control is a 100% effective accept a vasectomy or tubes tied. That's a part of having sex. If you're to irresponsible or childish to e prepared for that you shouldn't be having sex or should have a vasectomy/tubes tied.

Let's see... something completely unexpected happens, presumably despite measures being taken to prevent it, that will utterly and irreversibly change your life forever. You have less than a year to prepare for this one thing that will continue affecting you until you die. You know what? You're right, 247! Finding that scary is completely irrational. I'm glad we have you here to make us see sense.

Comment moderated for rule-breaking.

Show it anyway

That's got nothing to do with it, ya!

Comment moderated for rule-breaking.

Show it anyway

Yeah, but you don't say "oops i prematurely ejaculated" when you talk when you are not supposed to yet. I fear for your generations ability to be social.

Comment moderated for rule-breaking.

Show it anyway

Comment moderated for rule-breaking.

Show it anyway

This would make sense if the guy had blurted something out. He didn't, though.

110 - In 106's defence the dual meaning of 'ejaculation' that you were attempting to use would make a lot more sense when spoken. You kind of lose the context when written, particularly when viewed as a stand alone comment. Plus, OP's boyfriend didn't so much ejaculate as fizzle.

I fear thatgirlinoregon is bad with the puns and word play.

Comment moderated for rule-breaking.

Show it anyway

Well he over reacted. Yes. But it is a bad idea to tell someone you might be pregnant but not checked into it. Things get misinterpreted in speech. Thus causing the overreaction.

Comment moderated for rule-breaking.

Show it anyway

Really? Even after being away for a while, we're still getting these "Keeper" comments?

#135 : my apologies.... But guess what i dont visit fml every day and dont read all the comments, so sorry for disappointment & will try to make sure that i dont hurt ur feelings aye :D

Comment moderated for rule-breaking.

Show it anyway

Moms make everything better.

my mommy kisses my wounds better! c:

My mom gives the best advice (both my parents do) and helps keep me levelheaded. Why not go to someone who you would consider older and wiser? Especially if you have a great relationship with them. However, the boyfriend might have jumped the gun a little too soon. Some information should remain private between you two until you get all the facts straight.

You said you were only dating for a few months. I'd be freaking out, too.

I'd be shitting bricks, not only the fact of potential pregnancy, but the fact of OPs dad and his shotgun shooting at my ass.

unknown_user5566 26

His age shouldn't matter, an unexpected pregnancy can be scary no matter how old you are.

Comment moderated for rule-breaking.

Show it anyway
unknown_user5566 26

11- I agree 100%. I believe if you're not responsible enough to at least protect yourself, you shouldn't be having sex. Although birth control doesn't ALWAYS work; for all we know OP and her boyfriend could have been using protection the whole time.

Comment moderated for rule-breaking.

Show it anyway

I know, I was 35 and freaked out. Nature took care of it though. Shouldn't my eggs be dead by now? J/K!! I know I still have a few years, I now have IUD and my BF and I use condoms as well. Anything gets by all that, I'm naming it Michael Phelps

I understand stressing and hoping she isn't but crying and calling his mother is ridiculous. When you become sexually active it is YOUR responsibility to know that anything can happen. No type of birth control is %100 accurate except tubes tied or a vasectomy. It is your responsibility once you are having sex that there is always a possibility of a pregnancy and to know how to handle it and be prepared. If he is that freaked out about having a baby he should have a vasectomy or not have sex.

I was told I couldn't get pregnant, and was taking birth control for a medical condition. I now have a 2 year old. And when I found out, I freaked. When you expect that it can't happen, and it does, it's terrifying. You don't know if or what they were using for protection, so shut up.

YDI! Why would you tell someone that before taking a pregnancy test or seeing a doctor?! Babies aren't a joke!

unknown_user5566 26

My guess is OP mentioned the mere possibility of being pregnant, and he freaked out. I doubt she told him she was pregnant as if it were a fact.

I can sort of see why OP would do that. Sometimes you might think you're pregnant but not be sure because it's too early for a pregnancy test. No sense in her being the only one freaking out since he's just as responsible. Unless she's one of those people who thinks she's pregnant every month...

exactly, I fucking hate it when girls do that

In some ways I feel like that's even worse! The not knowing for certain, that is

I love that he's "just as responsible" in this case but when it comes to the baby during pregnancy or an abortion its all about the woman's choice and it being her Body and blah blah blah

You totally deserved it. "I MIGHT be pregnant.." Who the fuck does that?

If you browse thoroughly you'll find it already exists. Actually, just look at what's on now.

"Hey babe.. I know you are busy but i just thought i should tell you that my period is a day late and i might be pregnant but don't overreact. I haven't even taken a pregnancy test yet. I mean we all knew this would happen eventually. We have been dating a whole 2 months now..."

don't know Vintage, somebody who might be pregnant? Grow up already people... If you are old enough to have sexual relations, and without protection, you are old enough to handle a pregnancy scare with your partner.