By DCarreon - 04/10/2012 07:13 - United States - Ceres
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Sounds like an overly attached girlfriend song. Also, what is with all the jealous girlfriends lately?
Yeah, I would suggest dumping her. That be creepy. Or at least, have a very stern "what the fuck were you thinking?!" talk.
Believe it or not, girls do get insecure. That only means she has been cheated on before and wants to prevent it from happening again. Spend some time telling her how you feel about her and showing her how trustworthy you are, instead of writing FMLs about it :)
Are you THAT naïve, or just stupid? Does she really think the boyfriend would participate in some freakish incest orgy with his female relatives? If she thinks he's capable of that, then she shouldn't be dating him to begin with. My clinger senses are tingling. She also reeks of a 'Me, me, me, fucking PAY ATTENTION TO ME!' attitude.
#7- Her rampant insecurities are NOT his problem, nor his fault (as far as we know). He's a boyfriend, not a therapist! She either needs to work through/ fix her problems, before affecting another, or lock herself away so she stops infecting the world with her crazy. You don't delete someone elses life (read: phone contacts) because you've been cheated on in the past!
She may not have known that some of those girls were his family members. I don't think it was right to do this without confronting him, but I do think she deserves some sympathy. She's probably extremely insecure, we don't know for sure. But if she is, the sooner she gets support the better. People complain about other people without being considerate and judge the person, but are you really helping the world and yourself? If people continue placing judgements without offering support, it's more likely you'll end up with another insecure person because they were also abandoned. You're not really helping the situation, you're only avoiding it
#42- She get's no sympathy! Crazy needs medication and possibly electoshock treatments. Not for the world to have to become it's emotional tampon. As for are we really helping the world by judging it, damn right we are! The less crazy in the world, the less ammunition we have to buy.
I'm sorry, but this girlfriend's behavior is bordering on the psychotic. Having been cheated on in the past may make you more wary of things that could reasonably be deemed suspicious, but it doesn't automatically make you psychotically paranoid. My ex husband cheated on me but I trust my boyfriend completely because he is a different man. I'd never dream of looking through his phone, much less delete his contacts. That behavior is just completely irrational. I agree the girl needs help and compassion, but not the kind her boyfriend can provide. What she needs is some professional psychological therapy and perhaps medication.
That's not "psychotic behavior". Everyone handles situations differently. Being cheated on once or twice or even 3-4 times may not affect you enough to react the way OP's girlfriend did... But If someone's been abandoned and abused too many times it could really affect someone enough to over react
101, I said BORDERING on psychotic. And I imagine that there is always a reason behind extreme paranoia, possibly including abuse and abandonment in this case, but that does NOT make her behavior rational, nor does it mean that OP can "fix" her or excuse her behavior. It seems to me that the girlfriend was trying to control OP by attempting to ensure that he could have no relationship with any other female, romantic or otherwise. Whether his girlfriend is damaged or not, OP shouldn't have to endure that type of controlling behavior.
Umm no. First of all, even if she's been cheated on before - you don't do that. You tell the person you're involved with how you feel, have a talk etc etc. And, in my experience, I've had that kinf of jealous boyfriends. Whyyy were they jeslous? Well because they knew they could not trust themselves, since they're were cheating on me apparently, and thus expected me to be just as big an.asshole. Arrgh Im too tired for this, hope anyone at all got my point.. x,D
143, I did until he started staying out all night and ignoring my calls, along with a host of other suspicious behavior. If my boyfriend ever starts doing the same sort of things, I will stop trusting him too, but until he gives me a reason not to trust him, I will trust him completely.
Last I checked psychotic can be crazy, and that girl is bat sh*t crazy. Being cheated on does not give anyone the right to invade someone else's privacy nor become controlling like that. If that's how she's acting, she needs to be single and work out her personal issues before committing to a relationship. If she's that paranoid because she's been cheated on so many times then she needs to evaluate herself in a relationship because clearly something is wrong with BOTH parties.
Telling your partner how you feel won't do anything. You can't control your partners choices but you can prevent them from making mistakes or going the wrong direction if you take a little control. I personally don't control my boyfriend, but I did delete one bitch out of his life. This girl was a lying manipulative bitch. I spoke to my boyfriend about her behavior multiple times and he didn't do anything about this homewrecker, so I took things into my own hands, told her off and deleted her off his Facebook and phone. My relationships been good since
Funny because your hook up girls are all secretly under guys' names? Haha I just know that some guys do that. Not that I'm checking. :P