By SantaClaus - 02/11/2013 04:19 - United States - San Francisco
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I find this odd, because my parents never really told us about the Tooth Fairy and Santa. We got money for our teeth, and gifts on Xmas, but they told us it was tradition, not magic. I sometimes feel like I lost out on a lot of the stuff other kids my age did, but looking back there was never that sense of betrayal when I "learned the truth" at ten or eleven. We also never went to church either so that might have a large part to do with the fact that this seems strange to me that someone would be so upset at eight about a mythical character.
I believed in Santa until i was like 12 or 13 because he came to my house once... I figured that he HAD to be real and if the other kids didnt believe it's because they just never saw him. I then saw the tape of when he "came to our house" and saw my dad turn away to pull the beard down so he can eat the cookies i brought him :'(
My family always celebrated Christmas, going to the mall to see Santa and all that stuff, and did the tooth fairy stuff, but as a child my parents never made me believe them, so I figured at probably the age of 4 myself it's just a cute little thing to cheer me up. I may sound sad that I never honestly believed in Santa but it saved me a lot of embarrassment.
113- The Tooth Fairy really has nothing to do with religion, specifically in the Christian church, and if you think about it, neither does Christmas. It was actually a Pagan holiday first until it was stolen by the Christians to get more Pagans to convert to Christianity. The evidence in the Bible, even, supports the claim that Jesus was born around April or March.
My dad had a friend that was all alone. So every christmas since my older sister was born he came as Santa and celebrated christmas with us, and with half of our presents with him. This made me believe in Santa until I were about 10. My sister figured it out before me of course, but she played along for quite a while to keep me believing.
My parents never once told me Santa was real. They told me that other kids believe in Santa and I should respect them by not killing their beliefs. I argue with my wife a lot about how to handle our unborn daughter regarding Christmas. I believe not to lie to my kids even about Santa. It's just asking for the kid to get hurt later as the op has mentioned.
#71, you didn't "figure out" shit by the time you were 5, unless your parents or someone told you. Time flies by in those early years of your life. Most people's earliest memories start at around 3 or 4. Even then, you only remember a couple events and details, let alone have full thoughts. Almost all people only have basic problem solving abilities at that age and are not able to solve anything as complex as whether or not Santa is real.
My sisters are ten and they still believe, so that was a major bitchmove.
Belief in the fantastical as a child builds a strong imagination and is a major component of the development of the neutral network in the right side of the brain. Letting your children believe a fantasy helps wire their brain for creativity, essential for invention and problem solving later in life.
I remember having a sense of hope as a child, it was that my benevolent father and mother were going to give me presents to the best of their capabilities (or as much as I could understand about "capabilities"). Not a stranger... I agree with your statement #204, about imagination building being a key part of early development. However I would have to disagree concerning the necessity of those fantastical figures such as the easter bunny, tooth fairy, and santa in the role of that development. I know that in the absence of all stimuli the brain will strive to fill the gap. To argue that santa is a key part of imagination seems narrow (absolutely no offense intended). There is so much more to this world and universe to be imagined and told. I remember that I was perfectly content imagining up things about my legos, I didn't need a fat man in a red suit or a flying fairy to help me with my imagination.
It IS lying, and I understand its fun for kids to believe but too much lying will only hurt the child. It's not fun to be ten years old and paranoid because you have to rely on adults for everything and you know they constantly feed you bullshit. Its not easy going to school every day expecting to learn when you know that your teachers are just going to lie to you. SOME kids actually like learning, so its not fair to mix in lies with the truth when they go to school. They're trusting you to teach them. They have plans for the future. They want a good education, and they deserve one.
even worse. my 5 year old nephew had the same experience. his teacher had the same assignment and got the whole class in tears because they all still believed in santa
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I may be alone here with this, but I think it's time to stop teaching kids false stories. My parents never told us about Santa, we opened presents on Christmas eve so it wasn't possible. As a kid, Santa was just a figure for Christmas.
73 yes you are alone. Santa may have been blown out of proportion over the years, but what's the harm in letting little kids believe in magic, even if it's only for one night? After all their dreams will be shattered in high school, and again in college and then life will punch them in the gut over and over, so why can't kids enjoy the wonders and fantasies even if they aren't real?
73- It isn't a false story, It's a whimsical fairy tale to give children hope. My parents were very big on keeping up the Santa illusion. They went as far as waking up at 1 in the morning to put presents under the tree, eating the cookies we put out and leaving a note from Santa, even making look like a very old man wrote it. I think it's a tradition to believe in Santa and the Tooth Fairy that should never die.
Maybe it's because I never believed in Santa, I just don't understand why teach it when it causes issues like this FML. As I stated, my parents didn't not tell us about Santa, just didn't say he was real. It distracts from the true meaning of Christmas. Sorry that no one seems to agree with me. It will not stop me from not telling my kids Santa, tooth fairy or easter bunny are real.
How would you complain about it to the school? "Excuse me principal, but my son's teacher's told him something that was true and didn't match up with a lie I told him at home, and he/she is very upset now. Could you tell Mrs. Smith to stop telling her class the truth?"
What kind of grown up shoves that in a kid's face and then has the dignity to ask the kids to write about how they feel? What an asshat.
I believed in Santa until I was almost twelve. The kids at my school, jerks that they were, yelled at me that Santa wasn't real. I yelled back at them that he was, but they still ruined Christmas for me. Honestly, if they hadn't done that, I'd probably still believe, even though I'm turning eighteen next month.
My parents didn't teach me about any of these things either and frankly I wouldn't teach them to my kids either, but that does not give the teacher any right to ruin it for other kids. Parents should be allowed to tell their 8 year old that Santa brings them gifts if they want to. What the teacher did was completely wrong.
Yeah, its a jerk move to yell at a classmate that Santa isn't real... but the truth is that he isn't. And believing in fake stuff like that is harmful to our society. Think of how the world would be if everyone believed in Santa. We'd be a planet full of idiots. Bullying is not okay, but neither is being stupid and believing in things that are obviously fake. Use common sense to figure out if something is real or not, and do research if you're still not sure.
245 - So you're basically saying that everyone who has some sort of faith in a religion is an "idiot"? Just because there is no scientific proof of something doesn't mean it's not real. Almost everyone believes in some sort of god. Does god not exist either, just because you have no proof of him? Santa could be real. We just don't know. I consider myself an agnostic when it comes to Santa - I don't have any proof that he exists, but I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt.