By ugly - 11/06/2012 12:01 - Australia
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Rofl 95, made me laugh...but anyways I won't be completely irrelevant.... OP, I hate to be the person who gets all cheesy and what-not but seriously, there is somebody for everybody...but on that same note you shouldn't be timid and hold back whenever a guy does approach you, be confident and hold your own in the conversation. Of course, depending on what type of person you are, easier said than done.
Everybody who thinks that only people (aka teenagers) of the 21th century wants to be attractive, deserves a bullet in the non-existent brains. Watch some Horrible Histories, people. How can you complain about mirror pictures when women used to dye their hair with piss to look beautiful (and eventually become bald)?
38 has a point. However no other time in history did you see 14 yrs old girls getting breast implants and tummy tucks. In early history they at least tried to be subtle about it. Plus, the whole social network thing adds an extra dimension of obnoxious previously never seen before. I think what baffles me most is that this is supposed to be the age of Aquarius! Lol we are supposed to be moving past the superficial and embracing higher learning, etc!
"However no other time in history did you see 14 yrs old girls getting breast implants and tummy tucks." But maybe, just maybe, that's because plastical surgery was not at that point in the Elizabethan age. 14-year olds just got married then. And subtle? Dear god, have you seen the gorgeous Georgians? They wore wigs with apples and flowers in it, come on. Also, I think that there are not much 14-year kids who get breasts implant. I even think that's illegal, because the body is still growing.
#45, I have to disagree. First of all, most 14 year old girls DON'T get breast implants and tummy tucks. Those are the minority and the extreme, so you can't judge a whole generation based on them. And besides, the only reasons people in the past didn't do so was because 1) different body shapes were popular at different times, and 2) they didn't have that technology. Ok, so a few, very rare young teenage girls get plastic surgery. In comparison to history, that's nothing. What about corsets, lead-based whitening makeup, foot binding, bustles (the things that made women's asses look massive in the 1700s), etc? There were many more dangerous and more widespread beauty practices in the past than there are now. Trust me, these people were NOT subtle. Not only that, but at least THIS generation isn't one that has to be pretty to succeed. In the past, you had to be attractive in order to get a husband if you wanted to be successful. Nowadays, women can actually get jobs and succeed on their brains and skills, not just their looks. Consider that before you claim that "this generation" is worse than the others. And "age of Aquarius"? What does superstition have to do with anything...?
"38- why do women dye their hair? Cus their insecure... " Euhm...No. They did it so they could get the most wealthiest guy as possible. Knowing that women had difficulties to find a well-paying, not-so-heavy job (if they were allowed to have one), it could be quite useful to have such a man. Or even just be his mistress, that would be enough for a life without financial problems.
People who feel they are attractive tend to be more confident. Confidence makes getting things done in life easier. When you are confident, you can be more outgoing which opens up a lot of opportunities. There is nothing wrong with striving to look your best or being attractive as long as you aren't letting other things slip like attitude and knowledge.
People who feel that they are attractive DO feel confident, but that has nothing to do with actual appearance. You could be ugly and FEEL attractive (or just not care at all), and you can be attractive and FEEL ugly. Worrying about your appearance falls under the second category because it means that you *want* to be attractive, but don't actually feel that way. And anyway, attractiveness and confidence can only get you so far. You need to have actual skill and knowledge to back it up. Just because you are super confident and outgoing does not mean you would be, for example, a good doctor. Therefore it makes more sense to spend time trying to improve your character, knowledge, and skills, than to worry about your appearance.
I color and/or lighten my hair not because I'm insecure, but rather because I get bored with having the same hair color for too long, that & my natural color is mousy, and I just don't like it. I've had my hair nearly every color imaginable. My favorite was deep pink with blue peek-a-boo highlights. ......... OP, it's hard to see it when you're already feeling down on yourself, but just because your friend got hit on when you were feeling unattractive does not mean you are. Do something that makes you feel good about yourself that has nothing to do with your physical appearance, learn something new, do something unselfish for someone else, be a genuinely nice, pleasant and happy person... When you've done that, if you still feel unattractive, figure out where your insecurities are, and gradually do small things to improve them. It could be as simple as smiling more.
#2, Yes, but if you are not physically attractive, you can make yourself attractive in other ways. You can make up for being butt-ugly by having a sparkling personality, a kind soul, a sense of humor or by being a good listener. If you can't do that, hand out free beer and weed. If all else fails, people will be attracted to you if you hand out wads of cash.
Wow, the people who thumbed this down must be nice... OP, you shouldn't be so concerned about your appearance. It really isn't important. Priorities, people. And who cares if your friend was getting hit on? It doesn't make you any less beautiful inside or out. It's not a competition. You're going to have a hard life if you keep being so sensitive.
91, This was thumbed down because it is wrong. Looks do matter, they're just not the most important thing in the world. Well rounded people accept that appearance is a factor to attraction and a part of life, you're not being less shallow than appearance focused people by refusing to acknowledge the importance of it.
#145-- Looks actually DON'T matter to me. I don't have to pretend. :P Do people actually believe that looks matter that much? It's sad. And even if that's true for some people in a specific situation, i.e. physical attraction, that doesn't mean that looks are important in any of the countless other possible contexts.
That's when you busted a move and asked the stranger out, right? Right??? Take control of your destiny.
Is feeling attractive the only thing people strive for these days?