By Anonymous - 12/10/2010 05:04 - United States
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I know someone is going to call me "shallow" or a "jerk" for this comment, but have you all concidered how she looks? She must be under the social radar if this was what she had to do to try to get a guy, and if she was also ugly that would not help. Girls usually crush in the more popular guys so he was probaly wasn't a shallow jerk, but just a person who didn't want to be judge negatively by his peers. I know that I personally would've accepted it and listened to it just because of the fact that no girls do that kind of stuff, and this was a different kind of girl. Stalkerish maybe, but still different.
" Girls usually crush in the more popular guys so he was probaly wasn't a shallow jerk, but just a person who didn't want to be judge negatively by his peers. " um - a person who decides to throw out a CD because of how his peers may judge him is, by definition, a shallow jerk.
I'll be damned before I am disrespectful and mean to someone because it may affect my "social status". We all have one life to live. Why spend it making other peoples' miserable? I talk to "unpopular" and "unaccepted" people all of the time to try to make them laugh a little instead of crying, because I feel that that is what is right. Until the day I die, I will never let a person who feels obsolete in the world stay feeling that way if I can help it.
53: You are shallow and a jerk. : ) 56: I agree. In this case the cost (being ridiculed and maybe losing other friends or social status) outweighs the benefit (maybe making a new friend that others could have overlooked). People call it shallow because they want to make the people who wouldn't befriend them seem dumb. OP: I recommend actually asking him out, not giving him an obsolete musical compilation full of songs he can download free (albeit illegally) as an indirect token of your affection.
Well, 102, I could go off on how ignorant and unintelligent you are, but that would solve nothing. You obviously have some problems to deal with in your own life. Otherwise, you would not have responded so furiously and disrepectfully to my post. Despite your attacking me, I'd be more than happy to help.
How would a CD of random songs you think he might like be a good way to say that you like him? You could just, I don't know, say it.
Well, we are scared to death that what you say or do means something completely different than what we think it means, which, in most cases, is true! Hints only cause frustration for men. Females are complicated beings. Don't expect us to know and understand all of your strange and wicked ways of torturing us. ;)
I suppose just talking to him was out of the question? Either way, you had to know some vague outcome like this was a possibility, it's a part of life.
I would be a little surprised if a random guy came up to me with a CD. Maybe a friend started teasing him about it, and he threw it away in embarrassment. Regardless of if he likes her or not, free music should be worthy of keeping, or at least listening to to see what was given to you. There's probably more to this story.
Six years ago, when I was fifteen, I gave my crush a mix CD along with a note expressing my feelings. Obviously it was a bad idea, but my fifteen year old self didn't understand why until I ended up completely rejected. However, I was far to shy to tell him something so "important" to his face. Maybe OP is shy just as I was?
Well, Nerds, there is that. However, I tend to feel if you're too shy to tell them, then there's no point (but maybe that's because I'm older and maturer now and I'm forgetting what it's like to be a teenager). Or at least, if you are way to shy to tell him face to face, a note or something should be the way, the OP doesn't even mention making a note. However, my last point, was that however the OP chose to tell him, there was always a chance of rejection.
Confidence is sexy. So unless the guy is a total music freak or dancing freak and the music has special value for him, then it is a waste of time (see "Nick & Norah's infinite playlist"). Last time I made a mixed CD for a gal, it was because I had no romantic interest in her and she made a few comments about liking my music. That is the only time mix CD's aren't lame.