By cheat - 18/10/2009 11:30 - United States
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Before anyone else chimes in with 'dump him'.. Figure out if you'd rather a guy you like let you win every card game, & 'sorry dear' if not. Haha. Especially if you can tell they think it will improve their odds with winning you over. How borin' Argue as much as you like, but every girl is going to be drawn to whoever drives them crazy. A little harmless teasing goes a long way. I'm sorry you didn't get it. Lol! :]
Throwing cards or throwing fits? It's great you know what's tearing their lives apart, after just reading 2 lines on a couple's card game. You must be really gifted. It just so happens that I have the same gift! So after chatting with you for a little, I finally have a solution for your problem getting laid! MSG!
Throwing cards because he loses constitutes as throwing a fit. Or did your parents treat you extra special all your life? Also, your argument has already been rendered invalid for trying to insult my sex life as part of your "argument." We call that a Red Herring fallacy; bringing up unrelated topics in your argument, diverting from the actual issue at hand. Or, it could be considered ad hominem; bringing up something against me as an attack on my character to somehow strengthen your argument.
Sorry OP, I have to go with ydi for lowering yourself and throwing the game. My husband also has a hard time loosing, he doesn't throw cards like a child or become a shit head when he wins, but he gets grumpy. I would never throw a game to avoid his bullshit, he needs to learn to loose. But your guy sounds like a child, unless you guys are teens, this is too much for an adult to put up with. This will manifest in other aspects of your relationship. I suggest stop catering to his childishness and face the issue. If he can't grow up, time to go. If you are teens, dump him and tell him why, let him learn from it, you are too young to lower yourself for a boy!
That's juss stupid. Shudda made his ass pick up the cards when you won. So ydi. N
I have to agree with everyone else, please dump your boyfriend! If he reacts that badly to a card game, I'm concerned as to how he would react to bigger things in life that really matter. Please get out as soon as possible, for your own good. I realise it would be hard, but it's for the best!
I would not advise dumping him... he would probably become enraged and would physically harm you. The bigger issue here is... why are you attracted to abusive guys? Your life will not improve until you can figure out the answer to that question.
imo, you're looking at this the wrong way. the way you're stating it, it makes the OP's situation sound like some sort of zero-sum zen riddle where if she leaves her boyfriend, she gets assaulted, and if she doesn't leave her boyfriend, she gets assaulted, but i don't necessarily see a guy who throws cards as a danger to beat her RIGHT NOW, while if she inadvertently encourages that behavior by not doing anything about it, it could easily snowball to the point where he does become actually abusive. basically, i don't see any real downside to her dumping him now, and if it does become bad, she can always file for a restraining order or any other preventative measure. ughhhh so many dependent clauses, i'm so ashamed of myself