He doesn't deserve to be blessed with a second chance. Guessing by your profile name, you already know what time it is. Life is tough, and adultery shall not be tolerated. You're too good of a madam for even giving the chance of counseling. Move on without him.

Sounds like a great man..why even try and hold on to a man like that. let him be HER problem. He'll do the same with her. If a man cheats WITH you, he'll cheat ON you.

See my ninja advice from earlier today. It's a cheaper and more effective way to save your marriage. Heck, you might even profit if you sell the weapons on the dark web.

Just divorce him and get him for alimony, breach of contract, emotional distress, and child support if you have kids. He's put you through enough already.

your fault for actually being willing to stay with him

That's actually remarkably honest for an unfaithful spouse. You should be glad he is making your decision so clear.

If my wife called me a sniveling worm, i'd cheat on her to.

Get rid of him.