Yeah, OP, don't look too much into it, she may just need some time to think about it. Who knows, that bouquet toss could cause her to propose to you.

Really people? How did this get downvoted it is a possible explanation.

I don't understand why people vote the way they do, but then again I don't understand how to vote either (on mobile)

Because this site is full of overgrown twelve-year-olds who think it's funny to upvote stupid shit and downvote things that are actually helpful.

or he doesn't know her as well as he should. you should know where your Gf/Bf stands on the idea of getting married before popping the question. it's not ruining the surprise for her to know you want to marry her sometime. it's called communication and saving everyone a lot of hurt and embarrassment in the future.

I really don't think it would be a panicked reaction to react like this, but we can hope..

Just tap the one you want to vote on and tap the thumbs up or down

My thought exactly. This isn't nearly as much of an FML as it could have been. OP's girlfriend could have shrugged it off, OP proposed, and THEN got shut down infront of everyone. At his sisters wedding no less. Now that is an FML

Hey, he has a pretty cool sister too.

Just because you propose doesn't mean you have to spend the rest of your life with me. It means I want to make us serious and ale a serious commitment. She oils have said no anyways.

I couldn't agree more 49!! It's mind boggling to me to think that someone will propose without having talked (at length) about whether they want to get married or not. The response to the proposal shouldn't be a surprise. They should know without a doubt what the answer will be. And the whole "it's supposed to be a surprise" thing, I couldn't agree with you more. The surprise is in the way he proposed and the timing of it. Not "surprise, I know we've never talked about this before, but I think we should spend the rest of our lives together, side-by-side, forever!" Op, I know you're probably upset right now, but this is a huge blessing in disguise!! You can't imagine how painful and embarrassing it would've been if you had proposed and she said no. It would've ruined the whole night for yourself, your girlfriend, and your entire family...including your sister when it's supposed to be the most incredible day of her life. It would've put a damper on the rest of the night and you would've probably had to leave to get away from the embarrassment. It would've even affected any future proposals. Take this as a sign to not propose again (to her or anyone else) without having talked with her, at length, about getting married beforehand.

While I do agree with you #49 that you should know how they feel, that doesn't mean they hadn't talked about marriage before. You don't have to ask if they're okay with you proposing because there should be conversations held beforehand about marriage. Maybe she just felt like it was too soon to get married, since catching the bouquet is supposed to mean you're next to get married, but she told OP that she wants to marry him someday. That could be where the difference is

So when in a relationship you HAVE to get married or it's over ?

I don't believe in marriage but both people in a relationship should have the same goal. If one partner wants to get married and the other doesn't, I don't think it will work well.

#32, it might have been that she didn't want to get married at that time, but I agree that they should talk about it

" yeah she didn't want me to propose to her at my sisters wedding maybe I should just propose at a dinner next time " the problem isn't where, it's communication. he obviously needs to talk to her.

why'd i get down voted?

95 - Because she clearly is not looking to get married any time soon. Her reaction was "ew." Not very inviting for a proposal.

Made me laugh more than I should've

You must feel better now.

@6 I second that

How did this get through moderation?

#15, I sure do feel better that someone pointed it out!

This is probably the most obvious, and logical, thing to do. Why assume? maybe marriage is not something she wants to talk about? And maybe even think about what kind of relationship you two have.

well its a surprise

The proposal itself can still be a surprise. The fact that one partner wants the legal commitment and one does not should not be left unstated until that surprise takes place.

OP really should've talked to her already, but yeah, now's as good a time as any.