By Anonymous - 24/06/2015 03:16 - Canada - Ajax
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Dunno why you're getting thumbed down, 27. I also don't know why people are more concerned with the impending baby than they are with the fact that the girl was most likely raped :/ The baby will be fine. Her parents will more than likely take over its care. I'm more concerned with how she got pregnant, and whether it was consensual or not.
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#37, I personally believe that caring about a child's life and wellbeing is a more important than speculating on how the mother got pregnant. Several disabled people get married and have plenty of consentual partners. But the fact that the mother is disabled is 100% there. And raising a baby that way will be hard, and the baby could be affected. I do think how the mom got pregnant is the lesser matter.
I think the how of the matter is just as important as the fact she is. If she is handicapped enough that she is unable to consent, or if the sperm donor is in a position of power or authority, it's very important to find out who did it so it doesn't happen again to someone else.
Disabled children and disabled people in general have very high assault and rape rates. The fact that the person had to inform the girl's parents also suggests the girl is very young, and likely not able to consent (which is why the girl isn't communicating it to her own parents). Disgusting as it is, this is why a large number of severely disabled children are forcibly sterilized by their parents - to avoid a situation like this. The children will still be raped and abused, which is horrible, but there won't be the added trauma of having to experience a potentially very dangerous pregnancy and birth.
Reading this thread just made me really sad. All I wanted to see was jokes about disabled people, but NOOOO, that's too much to ask, and now I feel bad. Fuck you guys for making me feel things that aren't happiness, turned on, or a mix of both. I hope you're proud of yourselves.
Why is everyone assuming. Its not impossible for this child/adult to have sex with someone with the same disorder or not. I taught kids with different disabilities all in one class and it was chaos trying to keep the boys and girls apart. on many occasions I've caught them with their tongues down each others throat. Its the parents' responsibility to give birth control to the girls because sadly a lot of them do go home and have no one their to stop there advances. this is a sad situation but it's not impossible for this girl to take care of her child with the help of her parents or caregiver if that's the route that is chosen.
I know a lot of Down syndrome adults able to care for kids and have them. There was actually a court case to where the parents of their DS Kid was trying to get the baby adopted out once born even though the DS girl did not want that and wanted to raise the kid, with her boyfriend who also had DS the court ruled in favor of the DS girl because she was already taking classes to know more about babies and the care of them, her and her boyfriend actually had a apartment that they were moving into (without her parents knowledge) and her boyfriend had a job and she was looking. She proved she was capable of it. They proved the boyfriend is capable of it. They both wanted the kid and were both consenting adults. The parents were furious and I think ended up cutting her off completely
Actually those with disabilities are screened for ability to consent, usually by a psychiatrist, psychologist, or behavior specialist. Not everyone can consent to sex, generally you have to have an IQ of 55 or below, and have a mental capacity of less than 9 years old. So yes, you can tell them they can't have sex... And it becomes your responsibility to make sure they don't. I would know- I supervise a group home for DD adults...
I thought this was bloody hilarious! Humour and disrespect are totally different things and we need to be able to have a sense of humour to keep us going. Aside from love and all that gooey stuff, humour is the only thing that can make a bad situation better. The difference between humour and disrespect is tact.
I don't even have a witty response for this... The only thing that went through my mind was "what.. The.. Fuck...?"
71. That's a really huge generalization to make, especially being as "special needs" encompasses everything from severe mental retardation to ADHD to purely physical limitations. We don't know where on that spectrum this girl is. She could be a permanent resident in a group home or she could be a kid in high school who needs extra help in English because she has dyslexia.
71 isn't completely wrong. I know some people who work in group homes for people with special needs, and they have to be careful to keep them apart and have caught some of them trying to have sex with each other. I'm not saying that everyone in the group home is really horny or anything, I'm just saying it does happen. So it's quite possible that it was consensual sex (they chose to do it, even if they didn't necessarily know what they were doing), not rape. They sometimes don't really know what they're doing, it's more like discovery of sex and body parts, etc, similar to how young kids want to show each other their private parts and don't really know why.
Agreed 104. I had friends who worked at a home for special needs adults. The horror stories that they have told me. *shudder* Just depended on the resident but they all had their very open method of masturbation. One friend said one of her residents was really good until he'd get in in his head to get all "rapey" with one of the other residents.
130, no sorry. I'm talking about if there are two mentally challenged kids/adults doing it together, experimenting together, without the complete knowledge of what sex is or how to do it. I'm not talking about one person who is not mentally challenged having sex with a mentally challenged person, that is definitely rape. I'm talking about 2 people at the same mentally challenged level having sex. They don't necessarily understand what or why they're doing it, but are both willing. They're basically exploring their sexuality because they still have hormones and just know it feels good. I guess technically you could say they raped each other, but that doesn't make sense.
how special and how old is she? if she can't take care of herself then that's not a good thing.
Actually that's a common misconception (this wasn't something I knew until I started working in this field). People generally exclude tons of disorders that are considered "special needs." There are actually more special needs people that can take care of themselves than there are ones that can't. You would honestly be surprised. We can't really assume that OP is talking about a severe special needs, but then again we can't assume OP isn't either.
how do you even go about that? there is no good way to bring that up. especially with all the questions this scenario raises. for instance, did someone take advantage of her?
depending on how special she is, this could go very bad. have fun in prison haha