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29 - It's not OP's fault the guy is an idiot. But you're being the exact person that causes these problems. Men and women say, "Oh, so and so is filing for sexual harassment and it wasn't even a big deal," like the woman should have taken a joke and when they DO take a joke then it's, "Oh they brought it on themselves."
Or OP coulda said from the start they weren't comfortable with that type of behaviour in the work place. But since they joked back, it seems like they were initially fine with it. As for what the guy did afterwards, he's a moron and should be sent back to a highschool geometry class
Honestly, I think getting him fired for this is a little extreme. Sure, the guy is weird for asking the question and wrong for telling everybody else but I would try talking to him first. However if it doesn't stop then tell your boss or if he's done something like this before then yeah file for sexual harassment.
Why are there comments about harassment and consequences? OP didn't mention anything about being harassed. This is obviously an acceptable type of conversation for OP. This FML is about the coworker thinking her answer had something to do with disease and not a shape.
Whether or not OP has an STD, and regardless of whether or not their initial interaction is sexual harassment, it was NOT that guy's place to tell everyone about something that anyone with even the slightest amount of common sense would realize should be kept between the two people discussing it. This sort of thing happened to me at work, except somebody decided that because I rented a spare room out to a friend while my husband was away, that must mean that I was having an affair. People at my job also believed that I was an alcoholic, a cat hoarder, and that I had eaten a synthetic grease we use to lubricate helicopter parts, none of which is true. Once a false rumors starts, it's very hard to convince the population of the truth, and your reputation is ruined because of something that isn't even true. In the end I got so sick of hearing some new bull shit about me every day that I had a friend tell everyone that I was a hermaphrodite. Needless to say they all felt pretty stupid when they found out it wasn't true. After that there were no more rumors. That asshole TOTALLY deserves to get fired. I have absolutely no sympathy for people who take pleasure in publicly humiliating others.
I don't understand how any of you can think that someone deserves to be financially punished for something coming out of their mouth that isn't "I'm going to murder you." Sure he made a bad decision and perhaps he has even made several other comments that are inappropriate and make people feel uncomfortable but how can you feel that you are doing the right thing when you are taking away someone's livelihood for making someone feel uncomfortable in the workplace? Does that not seem drastic to all of you?
101: "Making someone uncomfortable in the workplace," as you say, is exactly the point. Nobody should have to choose between not working and being sexually harassed. The OP's sex life and medical status is none of this coworker's business. Workplaces have the right to demand that all of their employees behave professionally, spreading stories about STIs is the opposite of being professional.
101, I tried to take that attitude with a coworker once. Let the inappropriate comments slide, but because I didn't take a stand (also I found it difficult to confront a senior about their behavior) it resulted in attempts of physical harassment. I now regret not going to my boss sooner over the "inappropriate comments/jokes". OP's work environment shouldn't be compromised for another person.
101 - There's a reason behavior like that isn't tolerated in most every workplace. What might seem like a joke or just a mild discomfort to someone could very easily be unbearable to the victim of it. Who are you to judge the amount of damage that one persons idiotic actions does to someone else. "Oh he just shoves the kid in a locker on a daily basis, it's only a discomfort, why should one idiotic asshole have to find a new school." A line has to be drawn somewhere, personally I think it should be LONG before murder threats.
122 & 124: You're right, the OP screwed up by playing along and not establishing boundaries sooner. She (or her company) may need to review the sexual harassment policy... ...But her coworker needs to face serious disciplinary action. Spreading sexual rumors in the workplace is completely unacceptable.
After all this debating I feel I should point out it is EXTREMELY unlikely he would be fired for this. The acceptable protocol in this instance legally is to stop the problem through discussion, behaviour monitoring and an investigation. This sort of behaviour is not extreme enough for firing to be considered off the bat. The only instances where I can foresee him getting fired is if the company has a really strict sexual harassment policy or they're just so shit scared of getting in trouble they act rashly without much hesitation.
Anyone brave enough to attempt to shave a dodecahedron in their pubic hair? You could become a pubic legend OP!
And now I want to try this to see if it can be done..., I figure I can taxidermy a cinereous shrew, which is the size of a baby mouse... I might have the fine motor control to pull it off. Well that or there will be a fml about how I messed up in some horrible manner
Even if he was asking jokingly that is extremely inappropriate and not to mention awkward of him to inquire about your pubic hair...
That's not something he should ask in a professional place anyway. And it's people like him that are that 1% at work that everyone can't stand....