By monkey - 19/09/2013 10:30 - United States - Logan
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33- OP isn't happy 60- I s*** in my pants 66- you are a slob/(swine) 70- hopefully, everything will be good for you 75- (alles neu)- everything new 92- that is just gruesome 101- you're all stupid, just stop with the wrong/incorrect German, and stay speaking English 114- I don't think you have all your cups in your cabinet (a German phrase for being crazy), I'm not stupid
Get in contact with him, let him know what's going on. Good luck.
Personally, I'd chase him all the way back and make him take responsibility.
You can't MAKE them take responsibility. If he truly doesn't want to be involved then all he has to do is sign a paper relinquishing his parental rights. In a perfect world, he'll want to help out at least financially, but there are a lot of steps to even prove he is the father, having a court ordered DNA test, lots of hassle especially for someone overseas. It's a crummy situation, but he may not even know, but he may take responsibility too.
Evidently old enough to bear child. It really doesn't matter how old she is. As the mother made the FML about the father, rather than the daughter's age, I think we can make the assumption that she's 16+.
26- Evidently old enough to get pregnant could mean anything older than 12, as brutal as that is, but in my mind her daughter's age is revelant: pregnant at 18 while still living a home is a different story than pregnant entering high school :p Last I heard, exchange students were at least in their mid teens before they get shipped to a foreign country, but hopefully both of these kids were older. Op not mentioning her daughter's age doesn't guarantee she's older. I'd hate to think the exchange student was almost an adult and basically taking advantage of a child in a training bra. :p
Pfft, old enough to bear children could technically be like 8 (probably even younger, I think the record is like 5 or something ridiculous but that's obviously less likely). In any case, I thought these exchanges were usually same-sex? To avoid issues like this and just because it's easier for sharing a room, sharing interests, etc.
@48, read #55 comment. That's basically what I was trying to say, not that both students were exchanges, but that students were made to say with households with the same gender children. Obviously it's not going to eliminate sexual shenanigans, as #63 indicates, but it will reduce the opportunities.
143, it is actually possible and more common than you think for a newborn infant girl to experience vaginal bleeding at birth and a few days beyond. It's because of all the hormones passed from the mother. Also baby girls can have cervical mucous again from hormones which USUALLY disappear after a couple days and don't return until puberty.
I think this requires more information. If she's young then I can understand the predicament. If she's a legal adult, then it's her choice to have a baby regardless of where the father lives. It would be human decency to let the guy know he's going to be a father, though.
Sure if she's an adult then she can do what she wants. But honestly, whether or not she is an adult she shouldn't have had a baby with some guy she doesn't know well and lives on the other side of the world. Plus, the father left back to Germany. Doesn't seem like he wants to come back.
54 - No, we don't all choose exactly when to have a kid but if you're not ready to this degree then you either shouldn't be having sex or you should be taking a hell of a lot precautions. Yes, there's always a chance they used protection properly and got unlucky but, the fact that there's always a chance, is precisely why you don't shag the guy you don't know well and who's not even going to be in the country soon.
Yes but it makes it more likely than if he's on the other side of the globe. Nothing is certain, but we make choices based on probability, not on pure worst case scenarios. Even if you have a kid with your husband of two decades, it's possible he'll be hit by lightning and die the next day, but it's still a better decision than shagging an exchange student.