By xOdaatx - 26/09/2011 13:01 - Australia
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Did she come over and steal his sperm then artificially inseminate herself? That's the only logical explanation because there's no way that he would cheat on you.
Even though that does suck for you OP, I think a newborn baby is more important. Too many single parent kids in the world.
Euhm...single parents can be as good as two parents. My boyfriend's father has run away years ago (and changed his last name so his debts went to his wife) and my boyfriend, how difficult it sometimes might be to only have one parent, prefers living without him. I think that moving back together 'because of the child' is a very bad idea. You move together because you love the other person and want to share your life with him/her. How big is the chance that this will be a crappy relationship/will end in a divorce? Being raised by one parent isn't bad (although often financial and emotional difficult), being raised by two unhappy people is. I pity that child. And you, OP. You're better off without him, but your life must be devestated now.
Moving in or staying together just for the kid is a HORRIBLE idea. Then the kid gets to grow up watching his/her parents always fighting and hating each other. My step did tried to make it work with her ex forever despite his constant affairs just for their daughter but she finally said enough was enough and ended it. They're all a lot better off now.
I actually see what you guys are saying, but I still don't agree. I was raised by my mom only. And I can't say I wouldn't have loved to have had a father figure in my life, like normal kids. And if these two parents can stay together without fighting and raise their child properly, then they should by all means.
Have you ever tried living with someone you hate though? I had a roommate from hell. I would never live with someone I hate for any reason ever again, regardless of the kids. My parents split up when I was 7 and I lived with my dad and visited my mom every other weekend. That was bad enough when occasionally one would badmouth the other to me. I can't even imagine living with that every day. My dad was engaged to a crazy lady a few years later and I had to listen to her scream at him all night. That's not pleasant to grow up with. Kids should never see their parents fighting and that's pretty much inevitable when the parents hate each other and live under the same roof.
"And if these two parents can stay together without fighting and raise their child properly, then they should by all means." That's true. But - knowing that this couple split up, the man was engaged to another woman, who he cheated on with his first wife -, it doesn't sound like a decent and stable relationship to me. Ofcourse, I could always be wrong, there are enough dirty cheating scumbags who evolve to a great parent - but I'm just sceptical.
Some cheating scumbags can be the best dads, but don't know how to interact with a woman. That's the case with my step sis's ex. He is the best father ever to his daughter, (and even does things with my step sis's son who isn't even his), but he is a total scumbag to my step sis.
my parents are divorced and i havent seen my dad since i was 8. i'm fine, and mental health issues are normally hereditary/present from birth. that guy's an ass, so its better for you to break up now than pay for a big wedding then get a divorce. sorry for you though.
Assuming you've been together longer than 5 weeks, let her have him. If he cheated on you (the woman he planned to marry) with her, chances are good that he will cheat on her with someone else. Move on, and try to find a guy who isn't a fuckwad.
One Falcon Punch and you can have that rat bastard all to yourself. Sounds like he was organizing a threesome, but scheduling difficulties caused your turn to be postponed.