Moving day, grandma

By Anonymous - 03/11/2020 14:05 - United States

Today, after my daughter fell in love with a city I didn't want to move to and I caved to make her happy, after a year of which she got engaged at the age of 18 and moved with her fiancé back to his hometown not far from where we moved from, she called to tell me she's pregnant and my first grandchild will be hundreds of miles away. FML
I agree, your life sucks 1 003
You deserved it 459

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Yummi_913 18

You picked up your whole life to move to a city your SEVENTEEN YEAR OLD wanted to live in. 17 Being right before people start their adult lives and go their own path and you should have known this. You could have waited for her to save and work hard to move out to that city herself, since she claimed to love it so much, and joined her in a few years. Having worked hard to be there, she also would have been more resistant to leave it. You really did this to yourself. Don't make life altering decisions on the whim of a child. Especially a child that gets engaged within a year of knowing some random guy and then follows him hundreds of miles away. Now all you can do is be there for her if shit hits the fan because statistically it's highly likely. I would say move back to your old town but I know moving just isn't that easy. Good luck.

silverscrescent 12

You couldn't be more right

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Yummi_913 18

You picked up your whole life to move to a city your SEVENTEEN YEAR OLD wanted to live in. 17 Being right before people start their adult lives and go their own path and you should have known this. You could have waited for her to save and work hard to move out to that city herself, since she claimed to love it so much, and joined her in a few years. Having worked hard to be there, she also would have been more resistant to leave it. You really did this to yourself. Don't make life altering decisions on the whim of a child. Especially a child that gets engaged within a year of knowing some random guy and then follows him hundreds of miles away. Now all you can do is be there for her if shit hits the fan because statistically it's highly likely. I would say move back to your old town but I know moving just isn't that easy. Good luck.

silverscrescent 12

You couldn't be more right

For those complaining about her getting married at 18: yes it's statistically much more problematic, but I know quite a few couples that got married very early into adulthood that ended up doing very well. Don't go all doom and gloom when they are still statistically more likely to stay married than get divorced.

Yummi_913 18

I know quite a few high school sweethearts still happily together today. It's STILL statistically more likely to end in divorce. You knowing some happy stories doesn't change actual statistics. Regardless, she's about to have a baby without her mother/family around to support her. All while surrounded by some dude she's only known a year and his family that she probably hasn't actually met before. In-laws tend to be nightmares to new moms (they're not actually married yet either but that's somewhat irrelevant at this point). She's not in her own home and is in a new town. The whole situation has the potential to be incredibly difficult on her. It's not going "doom and gloom" to just be realistic and know life's possibilities. Everything could also go sunshine and rainbows for her. Discussing possible negative outcomes won't sway that, but it does help prepare people for life's challenges. Anyway, I didn't mention it to throw shade at her daughter. More to say "hey, your kid *might* need you soon. So just be there for her and deal with the distance when the time comes".

You're ignoring the fact that they raised this kid. Of course she's not gunna have a clue what she's doing in life.

I'm sorry OP