By worthless - 03/04/2011 00:51 - United States
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He is going overboard, but relationships won't work if the sex isn't there for both.
Compelling argument #38, I like how you refuted my critical points with logic and example, culminating in the presentation of a coherent and alternate perspective... oh wait, never mind. You only managed to say, "nuh uh" I love how your lack of communication only serves to bolster my suggestion of better communication.
I disagree 19. While, yes, there is a communication problem, that's only one issue. I actually believe that sex is a very important part of a relationship.. Which is not to be taken as "you must have sex often." I think it's extremely important that both people are on the same page on the subject of sex, even if that page reads "for procreation only." It's part of the much needed chemistry that's needed to keep a relationship alive, because it falls under the matter of compatibility. One person might get frustrated if his/her needs are put aside for the needs of the other person, and that's exactly what happens when one has a much more active sexdrive than the other.
Autoshot, I'm pretty sure dudeitsdanny is agreeing and expanding, not disagreeing. Stating that not only is communication critical, but so is being on the same page with sexual goals. I do not wish to put words in others mouths, but the among the chemistry which binds us to others, sexual habits are a contributing factor. Lack of communication on such a subject (or any such critical aspect of chemistry or interrelationship) only serves to exasperate an issue. Not all failings in preferential alignments are inherently damning to a relationship ... but if the discord is enough to bug you, not talking about it surely is.
#135 She calls it a diary, maybe _he_ calls it a journal. Perhaps he calls it nothing and simply keeps a record of his thoughts and deeds to provide retrospective understanding in the years to follow. That's awesome. You might want to reconsider your thought process if you've concluded he's a p***y. Diary /= Feminine Feminine /= Inherently negative trait for a male By the same logic one could draw similar conclusions if you've ever made a sandwich. #135... have you ever made a sandwich?
Did you conveniently miss the "online" part? She meant a blog. On another note, if keeping a diary makes you a flagrant homosexual, then we're apparently on the fast track to extinction, looking at the sheer number of male bloggers and men who write articles about their life observations.
I like how this comment thread is dominated by women and queers, neither of which knows shit fuck all about a real man and when and why he needs sex. Most men NEED sex. Quite frequently. Especially if they are younger, or closer to their prime. A man doesn't function properly without it. YDI for being a snoop, and inconsiderate of your b/f needs.
It's not only caring about just sex. She has a low sex drive which would cause issues in any relationship unless the guy is also uninterested in sex. You can deal with it for a while, but years of none to little sex (especially from the start) would be difficult and wear on you.
okay, if you have never had to pay your bills, or your rent, or buy ALL your own food you can't really consider yourself anything more than a young'un. You aren't an adult in the 'adult experience' sense, even if legally you can be considered one. By the way, I agree to be grateful for the sweet stuff comment. It's always nice to read how a guy cares about you. On the other hand OP, if you are in a sexual relationship, and you have a lower sex drive, you may want to find someone that can either a) be in a relationship with a woman who has a low sex drive, b) is so amazing in bed so you don't mind having sex more often, or c) is either gay, or comfortable with his relationship with his right hand. Or just have a relationship that isn't sexual if you don't really want to have sex.
Although you shouldn't have been looking...he blows dogs for quarters and you should leave him. Clearly he hasn't even tried to bring it up to you and talk to you about it, he just complained in his diary.