By Anonymous - 14/12/2014 07:07 - Canada - London
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If you're comfortable and happy with your body who cares what others think? Your mother should appreciate this
Why on earth should her mother appreciate her daughters obesity? (Yes, I am making that assumption because I've never noticed this occurring with people in the averages of our population.) Granted it was a very shitty way to say it, but there is no reason it should be anything more than accepted. You don't encourage unhealthy living like smoking, why is it any different?
Being overweight does not equal "perfectly healthy". You cannot detach the health concerns of too high/too low body weight just because of image issues. Also, big thighs doesn't mean unhealthy, where as ones that clap when you walk more than likely point to a very high body fat percentage.
#54 , someone already stated that OP never said they were overweight, and that they have thighs that touch. its true. I'm pretty skinny and my thighs make a little noise when I'm in a bathing suit. I actually have a friend who falls into the "obese" category and her thighs don't touch. Don't be so quick to assume things like that
I am aware having a thigh gap is the less frequent trait. Having thighs that touch is in no way abnormal. Having thighs that clap when you walk is not something I would consider healthy or normal. I don't believe anyone is less of a person for their weight, but it would be wrong to call someone who is overweight perfectly healthy as it is not true. And yes, you might know a friend that is the outlier for this but it doesn't represent the standard.
#54 my thighs rub together and make noise about have the time. I'm nearly underweight. as well as younger than 18. So, they could be an hourglass as well or a pear shape. which means you store fat in your butt thighs, and chest. for a pear it's just in your butt and thighs. first anyways and the majority of your fat. That's not unhealthy.
#67 I didn't say overweight was perfectly healthy, keyword 'or'. Also, you seem to be associating the word overweight with obese. Two different things. Also slightly overweight means maybe a little bit into the bmi category, not borderline obese. I'm not saying OP is overweight, I personally think she's probably a beautiful, perfect person. Some healthy people's thighs clap, get over it. Doesn't make them any less of a person. It doesn't matter OP's size, what matters is she isn't afraid of going to to pool, she isn't starving or throwing up, she's probably eating like the normal, healthy person she is.
#54 - For the sake of argument, let's take your statement that the OP is obese, and go with it. Why, then, would any sensible person forbid the obese OP from going to the YMCA pool and exercising? Shouldn't they, instead, be encouraging the obese OP to get out and exercise? This is as bad as yelling at a fat person using the treadmill in the gym, because "you don't want to see that," or yelling at a fat person who is out walking, or jogging, and telling them to get off the street, because you don't want to see that. All this combined with the eternal barrages to "put down the fork and go for a walk." You can't have it both ways! Either encourage the person to exercise, because they are fat, or else tell them to hide because they are fat, but if you tell them to hide because they are fat, don't you DARE claim to be concerned about their health. Activities such as swimming and walking are good for anyone's health, regardless of weight.
I'm really sorry to hear that, OP. Your mother is embarrassing for saying something like that to her son/daughter. And for shunning you away from family activities.