By devilboy - 06/07/2011 11:26 - Australia
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What a boring first comment. Anyways, OP should respect her decision. Sex isn't everything in a relationship :O
@Coldplaysucks: the OP DID respect his g/f's decision. The g/f decided to change her original decision ('wait until marriage') in favor of a new one ('come to bed, honey'). There's nothing stated here about OP forcing or pressuring his g/f. Indeed, with the g/f calling him 'the devil's temptation', it's entirely likely that her own (perfectly natural and healthy) sexual drive led to this event. OP, talk to your g/f. Explain to her that sex is a natural process, and a wonderful one. She's not wrong for doing it, she's not damned to hell (Jesus forgives, right?), and you aren't an agent of evil. Tell her that if she doesn't want to have sex again, you are ok with it. Tell her you still value and respect her as a person. Tell her you don't think any less of her. Of course, if all this isn't true (if you no longer respect her, or if you were only in it to win it) then **** you, OP, you're a douchenozzle.
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Pertained. I will not ignore you but I'll disagree with you. Good morals are what a good society is based upon. But they change from person to person. Marriage has nothing to do with a good society. It is stupid and pointless.
lamb- I am atheist and I want to get married. for the simple fact that I want a women to love me for who I am, and me her until we die on this miserable rock. sex is something that should not be given out to anyone and should not be done with any person you date for more than a month. It shouldn't be one of those things where someone says: "we should have sex", it should just happen when the time is right. Fuck the actual reasoning behind marriage though. The whole thing where it bonds the two and the women has to do everything the male wants. BS.
Both of you are making sense in your arguments. I understand that some of us don't need paper to prove your love and devotion to another. Personally, I wouldn't get married for the paper, the rock, the church, my parents, but for my girlfriend. To give her an enjoyable experience that bonds us not by a sheet of paper, but both mentally and emotionally. It's about emotion and commitment, not business and paperwork.
297: that's your beliefs, and I respect that.:). that's me and my GFs beliefs don't reflect everybody else's. I'm glad you feel that way, and I would never try to change it.:). Just like I hope nobody would try to change me and my GF's. I love her to death, we're both in love, and we won't get married, but we don't mean anything bad by not being married. But we don't mean offense to anybody, it's just our choice:)
The type of guy who wants to respect his woman. It was her fault for choosing to have sex and she needs to get some therapy/religious help if she breaks down every time she does something "wrong." The guidelines in the bible already state "no one is perfect without God's help" and so sinners will sin and all that Jazz. Maybe Op should reconsider whether he wants to be with this girl. If having sex caused her to breakdown and Op thinks it is weird enough to put online then they obviously have different "moral" standpoints. Loving someone doesn't always mean you should be together and if Op's GF wants to be super christian Op needs to think about what that will mean.
Or just tell the bitch to nut up or shut up. She ****** you and she made the decision so she should grow up a little and realize that marriage is not natural and you dont need to wait to have sex.
157. Are you ******* stupid? Do you really think that the first humans or the species we evolved from were married? Can you please inform me of how you think marriage is natural. I can understand having long mating bonds but marriage is not natural whatsoever.
cbaidchris: so u believe that an old man rounded up two of every species and then built a huge ark becuz he had a vision from god.... and to make it anywhere near historically relevant it woulda took about 200 years... u got it... why aren't they using the bible instead of history books... (last part was sarcasm)
I can't believe all the closed minded words on here. marriage is a religious sanction of one man and one woman. if you don't believe in it then you don't have to get married. that's why they have legal partnership. secondly, it needs to be explained that she has to accept her decision. if she still blames the guy then he should leave. temptation is a part of life. no one is perfect. there's nothing wrong with waiting to have sex till marriage. it lowers chances of getting stds and pregnancy.
I don't think it's right to judge this girl bc she takes the Bible or whatever other Holy book literally in this situation ... and another thing it may not have been called marriage millions of years ago and they may not of gotten married the same way (priest, etc) but it still was a bond similar to marriage ... FOOLS !
Marriage/unions come in many forms, as does religion. People can believe a horned hippo from Cleveland is their God but it shouldn't prevent them from owning up to their own mistakes. If the bible is meant to be taken in context (all of it) then you are not allowed to wear blended fabric, no second marriages, you must marry your rapist and Red Lobster is the home of the devil. I think its great people have morals and live by them, Jesus (as a historical figure) made some great changes in his culture and really did seem to have the people he helped in mind. So did Buddha and Mohammad. When religion starts making you blame other people (gays, men, women) for being temptation or causing you to sin then you need a wake up call. Christianity is supposed to be about self-awareness. You have to accept you have sinner, forgive others and try to be like a perfect being. This means you have to own up to your own sins (confessionals) and work to improve your character. But having a 2,000 year old book and cult like behavior does not make the world any better for anyone. So yes, the idea of being close to one person for the rest of your life is a great idea. Being able to legally take care of them should they get sick or be taken care of should they die, awesome. But saying, excluding and blaming other people for your own lapse in judgment and telling them marriage is the ONLY way is hateful and Jesus wasn't about hate.
OH MY GOODNESS, ImAHomosexual, I understand your opinion, and respect it, but just because you think something is pointless or stupid, doesn't mean your word on it is the say all fact, some people believe some things, some people don't, we live in a world of choice now, what grain does this argument hold, it's not like people are being forced to get married or follow the bible or whatever, if you don't like it, then don't do it, but don't discourage other people from doing it either or criticise them.
A legal (or religious) ceremony may not be natural, but monogamy is. I imagine you're objecting (based on your username) due to the fact that gay people are not often allowed to marry. In this regard, I agree completely - the problem is that marriage has been denied to them, not that marriage exists in the first place
You should judge people based on everything they do. You mean one shouldn't judge people negatively bass on what they believe. That being said, if they are disturbed and hurt because of their beliefs (as the poor, indoctrinated girl in the FML clearly is), judgement is entirely appropriate, but should be reserved for her filthy scum of parents who instilled in her such self-loathing in the form of God
1) Most likely the girl wasn't on birth control, because her parents probably have the same strong religious tendencies as her. 2) If this is her first time, she probably wasn't looking to get pregnant so SOME birth control would be implemented. 3) The guy sounds like he has had experience in the field of *******, so he's gonna want to cover his ass.
I was just thinking that if the guy never thought he would have sex for the duration of their non-married relationship, he probably wouldn't be carrying condoms around. And if his girlfriend decided to go ahead and have sex, it makes more sense that they would do it in the heat of the moment rather than wait for him to get a condom, thus giving her time to reconsider. But if that did happen, she's even more stupid to blame him for the situation. Still, you bring up valid points, as well.
well what made her change her mind? tell her it's not your fault but hers..