By Anonymous - 27/07/2012 21:23 - Romania - Bucharest
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Her OCD is likely in overdrive due to the wedding. There is so much deal to consider that even a normal person could lose it. My family is currently going nuts with how unconcerned about table linens, tulle, streamers etc I am with my wedding less than a month away. If I cared, I'd go crazy too...
You can hold the light switch all the through flipping it and flip it hard (1) or softly (2). You can simply flick the switch with a movement of your finger (3). You can use a finger or multiple fingers from one direction (4) or a fist (5) or an object that you hold with you hand (6) so that you don't actually touch the light switch. You can use the flat palm of your hand (7), the side of your hand (8), or your thumb (9), or pinch the switch between thumb and pointer finger while flipping (10). I personally prefer #4 as it makes the most satisfying noise, but the point is: IN REALITY IT DOESN'T FREAKING MATTER. You're welcome.
bit harsh to say get out while you can! it's not her fault that she has it! there are specialists she can see for help and like someone else said, she's probably only this bad because of the wedding, he's obviously capable of putting up with it as he obviously knew about it before they were getting married.
Make sure you request lots and lots of light bulbs on your wedding registry!
While OCD isn't a choice, how she reacts to it can be. Yelling at someone for doing it "wrong" in your eyes means it's not under control. Having a mental illness does not mean you get a free pass to berate other people, it still requires taking responsibility for your own actions. While the OP's GF is probably stressed about wedding preparations, perhaps she needs to take a step back before saying anything in order to make sure she's not over-reacting. It would have been much simpler (and more understandable) had she just gone and flicked the light switch herself, rather than yelling at him for how HE did it. Then she's in control of the situation and not making other people feel bad for something they have no control over.
I'd like to suggest taking her to therapy... That's extreme OCD and it can be crippling in every day life, also, you will probably want to kill her before the months out :) good luck OP!
Yes, but if you CAN'T deal with someone with a mental illness (and not everyone can), it's better for him to make that clear now, and not three months, three years, whatever after the wedding. If I suffered from a mental illness, I would rather have someone not marry me on the grounds that they can't "cope" with my illness, than push it under a rug for x amount of time, and then leave me anyway.