By Anonymous - 16/10/2014 19:30 - United States - Traverse City

Today, my wife yelled at me for being a bastard and not caring about her needs. I felt like an asshole and apologized for everything. It took me a few hours to realize I'd basically just apologized for unknowingly hanging the toilet paper the "wrong way" for her OCD. FML
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Put the money in her wallet facing different directions. It's hilarious to watch .

for everyone saying "she has more problems than OCD" thats not even thinking about the wife. OCD is really hard, and its difficult once you notice something thats "wrong" to ignore it. if they talk about it and they both understand that A) the husband isnt doing it on purpose and B) OP realizes its OCD and she doesnt need to be upset at her husband, then everything should be okay. just takes patience and practice

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andrew240 22

Wow, I'm sorry OP

Well OP, at least your a good husband, other husbands would tell and get into a HUGE fight

incoherentrmblr 21

Hanging the toilet paper where it rolls against the wall can be annoying when you can't grab it...

Sorry OP ?

orbit 22

NO sorry doesn't cut it. Op needs to learn that toilet paper needs to go over not under.

No just no. Stop complaining about the small things

Put the money in her wallet facing different directions. It's hilarious to watch .

That is a hilarious idea!

Risk getting caught in your wife's purse? No thank you

That would bug me &I don't even have OCD.

Then again, maybe you do and don't realize it

NO. Purposely inducing distress and anxiety in someone with an anxiety disorder is NOT in any way funny. Would you take an oxygen tank off a lung cancer patient who struggles to breathe without it, tip a paralysed person out of a wheelchair and pull it out of reach, or steal a blind persons seeing eye dog, and laugh watching them panic? Would you find watching someone else doing any of those things to someone amusing, or would you be shocked, angry and disgusted? Mental illness/disability is just as valid as physical illness/disability, and sufferers deserve the same respect and to be treated with compassion. Only a cruel, inhumane, heartless asshole would deliberately antagonise a medical condition for their own entertainment.

Actually I would take oxygen off a patient when they needed it and no one else would do it . I've seen many people suffer beyond their peace of mind and to die in peace . I don't wish for it but by all means stand by this decision. Oh and it's a joke lighten up a little , promise you'll live a little longer.

calm down mskatieface, you'll go grey. There's a difference between watching someone be momentarily annoyed about something minor like that, and toppling someone in a wheelchair over

There is no difference and it is not an annoyance. Have you ever had an infected tooth? Imagine having that pain in your skull because a floor tile has been placed out of sequence or a tin of beans is upside down on the shelf. That's what OCD is like. There are ways to manage it but they all involve learning to accept that things outside of your "safe zone" are not within your control and training your self to be able to cope. In their own home, in a place where they should be able to feel safe, people with OCD need to have things a certain way. Imagine if you came home to find that someone had broken in, trashed your house and spray painted threats on your walls. The emotional reaction that would cause you is the same emotional reaction that "pranks" have on someone with OCD.

Thank. you. to the person that explained how it's just like a physical disability. @ #60

Agree OCD isn't a minor annoyance it's a serious medical condition that people shouldn't make light of.

People can be very upset with their OCD needs

Yes we can. That said, you should have ended your sentence properly with a period, you f*cking douchenozzle ASSHAT! Wait, am I . . . overreacting or something? (Just kidding with the name calling. I saw the opportunity and had to take it :D.)

make all of her picture frames crooked.

Do you want OP to get divorced or something?

Or move everything three inches to the left.

PresidentNorth 16

It's a great idea but the most overplayed idea out there. don't move the furniture.

I don't know why so many people find it amusing to exploit someone's OCD. It isn't funny to them.

The biggest issue people with ocd have is others coddling them. Push them to accept that things can be done differently. Small things at first. Encourage them to change one habit each week, month or year depending on the severity.

Unless your a trained psychiatrist I wouldn't try to provide your own therapy to someone with a mental illness, you could just make it much worse

Psychology is guess work but that is besides the point I wasn't calling for giving them therapy I was saying encourage them to work on overcoming it. Its as easy as making them work with a psychiatrist or talking them through a breakdown and helping them see whatever it is isn't a big deal.

nitrog100 21

I'm sorry you're in that situation, but you completely deserve it for marrying her. You knew what you were getting into.

Nope, I don't think that's the answer you're looking for. A lot of people start showing their true colours after they're feeling very comfortable, ie. after marriage. They may not have lived together before they were married, so OP may not have known.

Besides, if he truly loves her he should be able to look past issues like this.

People can, sometimes, develop illnesses later on, physical or mental. Terrifying news I know. So she may not have had it when they married.

That shit HAS to go over the top.

God forbid if you ever open up a bag of potato chips from the wrong end!

Open it from the side. Every. Single. Time.

for everyone saying "she has more problems than OCD" thats not even thinking about the wife. OCD is really hard, and its difficult once you notice something thats "wrong" to ignore it. if they talk about it and they both understand that A) the husband isnt doing it on purpose and B) OP realizes its OCD and she doesnt need to be upset at her husband, then everything should be okay. just takes patience and practice

One time, at summer camp, I would set the tables properly. But then my friends found out that it really bugged me when something was offset, so like clockwork, when something was moved just slightly, I would come over and fix it. They would get my attention, make eye contact with me, and slowly push something out of place, then they would watch me come over and move it back. I tried to ignore it, but it bugged me too much. And that's when I learned that you should never let people know what can get a reaction out of you. They will sit there for an hour, moving things and watching you move them all back.

badluckalex 23

your friends are cuntnuggets

I'd actually say that they were douchcanoes, since there were about five of them doing this. Cuntnuggets come in boxes of ten at McDonald's, and since it's McDonald's it can include slightly more or less than ten cuntnuggets.

And if the wife doesn't like how how op hung the tp then she can just switch it. She needs to learn how to deal with her anxiety properly instead of blowing up at her husband over something so little. Although big to her it's really not a big deal in the long run.