How terribly sad that you think telling her that is "being a good mother". You obviously have no idea how to be a 'good mother'. You probably think you're a good lover and good driver too. HTF can you let her say "Oh...shoot." and walk away?!?!? Your daughters life is F'd for having you as a mother.

Guys! It doesn't mean she had sex, it just means she WANTS to have sex at an early age.

It isn't your daughter's fault it is your fault. You need to keep a closer eye on your child and be a good paretn instead of a total douche.

I had sex early I'm 16 and preganet so... having sex early is actually normal.

@164 - I don't think she needs to be told the consequences, she may have mental problems if she can have sex without knowing she lost her virginity and could by some chance get pregnant. And you guys are acting like she is 5 years old, I'm not sure if where the OP lives gives sex ed, but if they do, then she would have already learned it . And even if there is no sex ed there, she would probably live under a rock not to know what she is talking about to such an extent that she doesn't even know what sex is, it's obviously not a 'cool new thing' she saw on TV. She's just a curious kid. I think I would be disappointed if my parents told me to wait until marriage too.

that in no way implies that your daughter is having sex. it implies "oh... shoot... I have to wait until I'm MARRIED? that sucks!" telling your daughter something like that is NOT being a good mother, it's giving her impossible standards and telling her that if she doesn't obey she will have failed her own mother.

Bad parenting, eh?

What you told your daughter is right. Sex should be done inside the bounds of marraige. Do not listen to those who post here because what they're telling you is immoral and sinful. Those people who espoused this view is feeling the effect of sin...which is pleasure...that is why they will go the extra mile to defend their sins. But one thing leads to another... pleasure....addiction... pain...death.... then hell.

My first reaction was that maybe she made a bet with a friend regarding the subject or something along those lines. My little sister is 12, too, and even though she's had a boyfriend for a couple of months, they haven't kissed yet. Seriously, at that age, all they do is talk online or text one another anyway, in lieu of actual verbal conversation. They might even sit next to one another in the movies during a group date if they're feeling brave. Personally, I think that telling her she should wait until marriage is a bad idea, just because some women rush to the altar for this reason & eventually become trapped in an unhappy marriage. Although waiting is more morally and ethically sound, it's just not very realistic. If you want to be an honest, yet still responsible mother, just let her know sex should only take place between two people who have loved one another for a long time... and who are of age :)

atleast there weren't people around