Parents fault what their kids do, especially in this case. Have more bounderies.

oops... screwed

All I have to say is congradulations for mothering a hoe, that is if she has had sex. At her age, mothers and father don't always think about who their children hang out with. But, in this case you probably should, because it's either she's done it, and at 12 years old... plain and simple... that means poor parenting skills. On the other hand, if she hasn't yet but is thinking of it, you need to have a serious talk with your daughter. But then again, she might have been just asking, or asking for a friend. Either way you may need to be concerned.

I think the mother didn't want the daughter to think she approved of her having sex young. And she was probably taken off guard and didn't know what to say or how to have "the talk". I would think it requires preparation, it's probably unexpected when your child is THAT young. It's not easy being a parent, I wouldn't judge you. But like others have said, you might want to sit down with her and have the talk.

Saying she should wait till she's married has nothing to do with being a good mom. It's just a sign of being a prude christian. I first did it at 15 and now, 10 years later, I'm doing fine and am child and STD free.

Telling your daughter to wait till marriage (exclusively) doesn't make you a good mother. It's good to find out if your sexually compatible with your partner before you both have the ring on your fingers. However, advising her to wait is responsible, but doing so without offering any other advice (STD prevention, safe sex, alternatives to intercourse, birth control methods, etc.) is the exact opposite. The reason for this is that, yes, abstinence is the best preventative of STI's and pregnancy, and yes, it should be encouraged. But not every child will make the decision to wait for sex. And having a child who, when or if they're sexually active, is informed, is far better than having a child who isn't. Do you honestly think it's better for a child to have sex without a condom, without any other methods of birth control, and without any knowledge of what they're doing past "Don't do it till you're married; it's bad!" If you think abstinence-only education actually works, you're uninformed of underage sex statistics. Don't endanger your child's safety and well-being to keep the lie that they'll never grow up alive in your head.

'being a good mother I said that she shouldn't have sex until after she's been married.' loool, being a good mother? I would say 16-18 at minimum. Its the age that kids start experimenting. If people have to wait till they get married then you end up like Susan Boyle.

#8 legal drinking age is 16 in germany xD

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Telling your kid she shouldn't have sex till she's married doesn't make you a good mother. It makes you a disinterested, blind mother who is at risk of alienating and miseducating her daughter and helping her to feel confused and guilty about sexual feelings. Educate your daughter about sex. Let her know it's OK to have sexual feelings and to explore them. Let her know that there are ways to explore her sexuality without penis-in-****** sex. Teach her about contraception, condoms and STIs. A well-rounded and open sex education is the best way to give your daughter the best chance of a healthy sex life and attitude to sex when she's older. You need more Dan Savage in your life.