By It was the 11 year old - 21/07/2012 08:00 - United States - Austin
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6- Even if they already know, or think they know, OP would be smart to talk to them about sex, puberty, etc. It's an important part of growing for you to hear that from a parent or a parental figure. An 11 year old doesn't fit that description. 7- It was 7th to 8th grade for us, but by then most of us had already had the talk with our parenrs.
For as long as I can remember, I had a general idea of the differences between boys and girls and what it meant. My awkward moments only came when I got the talk and my parents were more nervous than I was, not realizing just how much I already knew. Of course I hadn't filled them in until after they were done.
1- Most professionals reccomend starting to talk to your kid about sex related topics as young as that can possibly understand them, or are curious about them. It will make them feel more comfortable to talk to you when they have questions later in life rather than going to friends or the Internet. Of course if your 4 year old has a question you would have to explain it to them in a way they would understand. But being honest and giving apporpriate information for the kids age is important. It shouldn't be one big talk it should be an ongoing conversation where they can talk to you and be open. Although many parents don't want to have to talk to there kids about sex.
#16 is probably referring to the fact that sex Ed in the US is hit or miss. My local public school system will tell kids how the dick goes into the vagina, but will not say that a condom over the dick or the girl taking the pill, cuts down the chances of getting pregnant. It's stupid really
Every country has pregnant teens, but a lot of schools don't teaches kids what they should be leaning earlier in life. First off, they teach kids that sex is penis into vagina, but (at least this is how it is for me) I knew what sex was when I was 10 but I was never taught about sexually transmitted diseases and forms of birth control until I was 15. And also, some kids in my class in 10th grade thought that you can get pregnant on any day, they had no idea about ovulation. I think the real problem is that teenagers don't think about the consequences, and they feel almost invincible, like they can't get pregnant. Teenagers are going to have sex, so we should be teaching them from an early age (when they first find out what sex is; so between the ages of around 8-12) that sexually transmitted diseases are real and will ruin your life and that having children at a young age will be very hard on them.
I moved from a city to a small town when in high school. In the city, sex ed was properly taught. I don't think they were taught well in the small town. We once found a pack of birth control in the bathroom with just the weekends missing. When we returned it to her and asked her about it she said she only got to see her boyfriend on the weekends.
Actually what I was talking about was that 16 made it sound like the United States is the only country who has pregnant teens. Teen pregnancy has gotten more common everywhere. And some of it is the blame of parents and schools not teaching it properly. But people need to realize that if they feel they are old enough for sex then they should also be smart enough to realize the consequences of sex.
138: I think 88 was trying to say something more along the lines of "if you don't know how the parts work you shouldn't be using them". Yes, every woman is different but I believe 88 was attempting to highlight how poor the sex education these days is. Girls these days who believe they can get pregnant on any day don't know much about how their own bodies function and therefore shouldn't be having sex IMO.
None of the other 8 year olds I knew when I was 8, knew what sex was. I think at 8 (or 11) you may know about babies and sex, but you definitely don't or shouldn't know/understand what sex fully is. OP step in there, quick! Since they're both talking about it, give them the sex talk now before somebody else gives them wrong information!
They're starting young in Texas! I suppose you don't have to give your 8 year old the sex talk when she's older.
At least there being aware. Although, you might want to sit your son down for the "post sex" talk. Along with the "let's not ruin your sisters childhood" talk.
Learning about sex doesn't ruin one's childhood. In fact, I'm rather shocked that an eight-year-old wouldn't have had some form of "the talk" already. I know I knew the basics of sex by then, as did my younger brother. I would definitely sit down with both of them to clear up any possible misconceptions and make sure they both have the facts, though.
You should thank him for taking that weight off your shoulders. I dread having the talk with my kids. I think it'll go something like this: Bastard Jr: Dad, where do babies come from? Me: The same place you came from...Home Depot. Bastard Jr: Really?? Me: Absolutely. I found you on sale for 4.99 between the shovels and rakes. Now go tell your sister.
My parents told me and my brothers the same thing when we were younger! Except since I'm supposedly the "smart" one, I was told that they got me at Smart and Final and bought my brothers at Target and Wal-Mart. :D we knew they were kidding, but it was still funny and we played along. :)