That actually doesn't mean he still loves her. There could be something she gave him, and he liked, that you aren't giving to him. Just find out how his relationship with her was.

I remember my first beer.

If he does actually have feelings for an ex, talk to him about it. My first girlfriend was the first serious relationship I had and we loved each other a lot but we just weren't compatible enough so I let her go. I will always love her in a way and she will hold a special place in my heart but it doesn't mean I still want to be with her. I broke up with her for a reason. So talk with your fiance to figure out if his feelings are similar to that before dumping him. Good luck.

I was engaged at 21 and married at 22, and it was the right time for me. Keep in mind everyone's different! What works for some doesn't for others. I'd rather be married now than be in my 30s scrambling to find a partner !

You picked yourself a winner there, haven't you?

I'm not going to say dump him, but at least call off the engagement until this can be sorted out (whether what he said is true, what to do, etc).

OP, your BF will have two ex-girlfriends to wail and weep about at his 22nd birthday!! Dump his sorry alcoholic arse or you're going to be hearing about the ex for the rest of his life every time this clumpknocker gets drunk, which will be often!!!!!

Who gets engaged at 21?!? Wtf

So, he dumped her when he was 17? I highly doubt he's revealing his "true feelings". He's just completely, utterly wasted. Which given the circumstances (21st b-day) is totally understandable.

Way too young to get married.