By unknown - 15/06/2011 10:20 - United States
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I don't really understand what is expected. I mean yeah, a guy should defend his girl and himself, but in a crowd at a concert and with the way people are these days, saying something to them would probably start a huge fight. I personally would say something, but all these comments I see from other guys that are like "Oh yeah sweet boyfriend. If I was your boyfriend I'd hit them in the face." Yeah. Good luck when 20 other guys join in.
From experience I can tell you that it can be difficult to 'defend' yourself if you're just a girl. I once was riding a bicycle when a teenage boy grabbed my ass. I showed my anger on a decent way (a very small girly slap) and told him I wasn't interested, but he kept asking my name and whether I wanted to have sex with him. There I was, all alone on the road with some young pervert who didn't had any manners, and boy, did I wish my boyfriend was there. An angry man is way more scaring for ass-grabbing guys than an angry woman. Besides, it wasn't one dirty man, it were plenty of them. OP's boyfriend could just glance angry at them to make them stop, but noooo, he didn't care at all that his girlfriend felt humiliated. Or it was a joke. I hope it was, otherwise he's pathetic.
Hmmmm getting paid with beer exchange for a cop and feel. Sounds like your being something that rhymes with crostitute. Btw you should of told the guys your bf is getting a little jealous with all the attention your getting and would also love some beer. Then start singing yes he likes it " what, what"? I said "in the butt" lol
so what? you get free stuff and u get ur ass massaged and complimented. that's a win win. I would let a chick hit on me for free beer anyday I'd feel lucky. it's not like she's having sex with them she's letting them be the horndogs they are and using them for free beer. welcome to every club in existence.
'76? how does sum1 grab ur ass while you are in a bicycle? u wud just ride past them?' I was riding when suddenly, out of nowhere, I felt someone grab my ass. I watched to my left, and there was that creepy kid riding his bicycle with a creepy smile on his face. So, he rode past me.
i HATE people like 76! 'just a girl' people like you should be thrown off a cliff, or a bridge, or anything that would make a nice fall. maybe it would knock some sense into your fucked up head. people like you are the ones who screw up society. learn to respect yourself, and if that's to hard for you, than at LEAST learn to respect other women who don't appreciate being degraded.
why would you take a beer from a complete stranger? and why not stand up for your self boyfriends not going to be there forever...
18, are you kidding? People put shit in people's drinks all the time. Especially, if they see an attractive girl that is not getting defended by her boyfriend. Just because you wouldn't dare spike someone's drink doesn't mean there aren't sic fuks that wouldn't do it. I've seen too many crazy things at concerts to openly trust strangers.
It may not have decreased as much as you think. For example: if a girls drink gets spiked at a party, and she gets raped she often won't report it. Why? Because victims often feel like it's their fault, a feeling that is supported by friends and family who say, "How could you let this happen? You never leave your drink unattended, or take drinks from a stranger." It probabably has decreased some, but on this subject numbers gathered from police reports almost always lie.
You'd be surprised how many rape victims are told that it's their fault. Also, the criminal justice system isn't very kind to them. They have to retell what happened to them in detail many times over in front of a crowded court room. Also, I think it's sad that we're saying that them being afraid to report it "encourages" rape. Shouldn't we instead be teaching people that it's wrong, so there will be less victims?
actually, victim blaming is all too common in our society. What's usually the first thing you hear when a so-called "promiscuous" female, or a female who dresses "provocatively" is raped? Unfortunately, it's usually along the lines of "she never should have dressed like that", or " she was asking for it with that skirt". There are several cases that are either still in the media or just got out of the limelight. Take the french politician accused of raping a maid in a new york hotel for example ..... French newspapers are now accusing the maid of "luring" him into it, asking why a MAID doing HER JOB would ever enter a hotel room alone. It's a very common problem, which is why many rapes go unreported and why many rape survivors never report their assaults.
it could work as population control, but as we see here ladies seem to lower their standards, have sex with just about any one, and have been told the 'dumb ditzy girl' attitude gets you respect and money. omg! like the kardasians!! like totally know what I mean girls?!?! our generation is doomed to mediocrity.
Are you relying on your man to defend your honor? What is this, 1492? If you don't like it, how about you stand up for yourself like a big girl.... just a thought.
Yes, but she was relying on him to stand up for her. By the sound of the situation as described by her, I would have done the same as her boyfriend, and my boyfriend would have done the same to me. If it offended her this greatly, she needs to make it more known that she was offended by standing up for herself.
Thank you awsm44. I have a man who loves and respects me, while I know MY man doesn't share well and would have kicked some ass if I was the OP, clearly her boyfriend cares a little less, so she should have the ability to defend herself. But you're right, men will rise again and us bitches really should just stfu. I think it should start with you. :) Have a nice day.