By llord - 24/08/2011 02:29 - United States
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Well I wouldn't care. I would rather be married with a 50 cent machine ring by the love of my life than by an extremely expensive one. It shows he can take risks to make the love last forever and that I can accept anything because I love him. Duh. That simple.
The problem is that if he bought it for someone else, it was meant to show his love to another woman, I wouldn't want to wear that every day. Clearly they have a past with other people, which isn't a problem, but to wear something that would constantly remind you of that is going too far. If i wore a necklace my ex gave me, it would remind my boyfriend of that relationship constantly...there's no way a guy would like that. It's not like you have to spend lots on a ring.
It's not about the ring. She is mad, because he gave the ring to another person before her. He bought this for another women and then just gave it to her when they were engaged. The ring symbolises the love between 2 people and the husband didn't even bother to exchange the ring for another one. I don't know about you guys but i'd rather have the cheapest ring on earth that my husband choose for me than finding out that I'm wearing a ring of my husbands ex.
I'd rather have a ring found in a Kinder Surprise. At least that way I get free chocolate.
Tbh I dont see a problem. Clearly that ring was quite expensive so there was no point losing all that cash just to go buy another expensive ring. Plus he must really like it to give it to you and actually marry you.
I have to agree. Rings are really expensive, and he would probably lose money by selling it or trading it. I can understand why she is bugged and maybe it is unconventional, but the ring is only a symbol of the engagement. Be happy you have found someone who wants to spend their life with you :)
'but the ring is only a symbol of the engagement.' Jup. And OP's problem is that that specific ring was the symbol of the engagement and the love between her partner and his ex. I completely understand your arguments about money, but to be honest, I (and more specifically my pride) would be terribly hurt if I got from my partner the symbol of the love for another woman on my finger.
I agree with 8. If OP would be completely happy with a $100 ring, then I could see why she's upset, but rings are a lot more than that, and sorry to all the ladies out there, but your boyfriends have loved others in the past, part of life. A previous relationship should not ruin the legitimacy of your current one. The guy is with you now, not his ex. Isn't that what's important?
I agree. I wouldnt want to wear something his ex wore. That ring was a symbol of his engagement with his ex not with his current. So she deserves a new ring. He can simply sell the ring and buy one with the money he got selling the ring. It doesnt have to be more expensive than the ex's. As long as its not somebody else's :-s
That doesn't mean EVERYONE is like that. I personally would be more likely to get upset that it cost too much. I mean, you could buy a computer or a tv or even a car for the price some people pay for a ring. Why the heck would you want to waste that money on shiny stuff? A couple hundred dollars is more than enough and doesn't require putting multiple paychecks towards one single useless thing.
#134 thank you! I actually TOLD my husband that. and I KNOW my engagement ring AND wedding band cost him under a grand. still a bit high, but I would have been PISSED if he wasted more money on it. and in response to this: I agree with 8. If OP would be completely happy with a $100 ring, then I could see why she's upset, but rings are a lot more than that, and sorry to all the ladies out there, but your boyfriends have loved others in the past, part of life. A previous relationship should not ruin the legitimacy of your current one. The guy is with you now, not his ex. Isn't that what's important? He bought that ring for another girl, with her in mind. as a symbol of his love for girl #1. I know my husband was with another girl... but I don't want to spend the rest of my life wearing something he bought for her. What ruins the legitimacy of it isn't so much that the previous girl was dated, loved and proposed to. it is the fact that he picked out a ring for someone else... there's so many styles, so when he found that ring he got it for girl #1. Then he didn't bother taking the time to do that for girl #2.