By Not Engaged - 06/03/2015 23:30 - United Kingdom - Stourbridge
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Well if he is still on good terms with his ex he should have her as part of his groomsmen, IF OP would be okay with that. Bridesmaids are supposed to be people that the bride is close to, not someone asked out of obligation. Tbh I would be very offended if my partner suggested this and I am pretty easy going. My best friend is male and I know when the time comes he will be part of my "bridesmaids", I won't be forcing my partner to take him on as a groomsman. It is no longer unusual to have people of the opposite sex stand with you.
While it is weird that he said that, I don't think there is much harm in it. Realistically, her being a bridesmaid would just cause some awkwardness. And OP could always try to convince him otherwise! I think if she were to not marry the guy just because he's good friends with his ex than thats a bit of an overreaction. Of course if he showed any signs of still having feelings for her, then I would understand. But I think he might just be good friends with her still, and doesn't realize that it's a bit weird for him to want her as a bridesmaid! OP and him should definitely have a discussion about it before making any irrational decisions.
I take it you're not getting married then
Tell him that that's fine, as long as you can find another groom