By Anonymous - 15/10/2013 20:16 - United States - Chicago
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Definitely tell your fiancé, pretty sure that's unacceptable. He needs to understand that you're out of bounds
47, I was recently the best man at my brother's wedding. I was the best man, his best friend was the honorary best man, and I can honestly say neither of us would ever imagine stealing his girl away. That's so off limits it should never be brought up, it's their day and their life afterwards. Best wishes OP, and congrats on your day ahead!
OMG people real life isn't a TV drama, (himym aside cause that wasn't too over the top for TV) OP needs to tell him! He probably won't kill anyone, yes there will we hurt feeling and possible end to a friendship but if OP keeps it to herself and it ever comes out (and it always does) the Husband is going to think OP betrayed him, either for simply keeping secrets (not a great way to start a marriage) or he will think she shared the feelings at least a bit and that's why she didn't tell him. Either way the Best man fucked up, not OP, it needs to be dealt with and the sooner the better. Good luck OP and do tell him soon!!
It doesn't have to be awkward since you'll be with your soon to be husband, its just one day so bear with it for now and you don't have to see this guy afterwards anyway. And this guy probably watches too many reruns of Shrek or something...
Don't just wait until the wedding! Talk to him and let him know you love your fiance. Have sympathy on the guy.
It will only be awkward if you feel the same. Tell the friend he's SOL and to behave himself or back out of his position as best man. Leave it up to him whether or not to tell your fiancé. If he can move on and keep quiet, the two can maintain a friendship despite one bad decision.
What did he expect, for you to agree with him and ride off into the sunset together? He's been watching too many movies. -__- It's a tough situation, but I would say it's important to tell your fiancée. Whether it be before or after the wedding is up to you. Good luck OP.