Don't even give them when you ARE in a serious relationship, unless you're okay with them getting posted online. Even if the guy is totally trust worthy, that doesn't mean that one of his friends won't mess with the phone, someone won't steal it, someone won't hack it, the guy at the phone store won't copy it when transferring data to a new phone, etc. There are so many ways for nudes to get lose that isn't even the fault of the boyfriend. Just don't take them.

I don't know why you're getting down voted. You're right. The moment you send the picture just be prepared that it could accidentally become public.

I agree. I have been with my husband since I was 16, I still wouldn't send him nudes.

No one deserves this!

Exactly she shouldn't be sending nudes in the first place. I'm almost 15 and havn't ever sent nudes and don't plan on it. she deserves it for having no self respect

And here we have a victim blamer in its natural habitat.

But op should have know the risks that come with sending nudes.

The risk that one of the people she should be able to trusting in the world would give them to a random person? Everyone loves to blame victims. Nudes can be taken for many reasons. LDRs, maybe the boyfriend is away a lot, to spice up their relationship. You should wait until you are in a very serious relationship, but how do we know op isn't?

I've heard about this happening to an acquaintance. she was dating a known douchbag, and she gave them out in the first three months. everyone warned her, and in that case it was her fault. I don't know OP's case, but it almost feels like if this guy was willing to do that, she couldn't have know him that well.

I know I've passed my phone to people to show them a picture and they start scrolling through my pictures, on top of that, people's phones and computers get hacked/stolen all the time. If you send nudes to someone, you risk them getting out, if you're fine with that then have at it, but don't complain if they do. This is why I say ydi. Yes, your boyfriend is an idiot who completely violated your trust, but you allowed this to happen. I'm not blaming the "victim" because I do not consider her a victim. We hear about this happening so often, that anyone willing to risk sending nudes to someone, should really not be surprised if they end up exposed to someone else. As for if her bf is away for work or whatever, there are intimate pictures that you can send that do not involve nudity. My naked body is for my husband, and my husband alone. If he wants to see it he can see it in person, same as when we were dating. It makes it less intimate when they have an all access pass to view us whenever they please.

Whether you consider her a victim or not doesn't matter. I can look at someone stabbed because they were making smart comments and say I don't consider them a victim, but they are still a victim. We have no information other than what is given, and it doesn't point to him giving her reason not to trust him before. I would still say nudes being leaked is a FYL, but that isn't even all that happened. He wasn't even her ex. The person she was currently in a relationship with traded her nudes for something he wanted in a game.

This is amazing.

No, OP deserves it for allowing something so private to be memorialized in a way that can be easily exposed and shared with the rest of the world. Why is it that the majority of people here are more defensive about protecting OP's privacy to express her sexuality in her relationship by sending nudes pics to her boyfriend, yet quickly neglect her own responsibility and accountability to uphold and to protect that privacy that she now feels is violated considering she had a foundational part in allowing it to be compromised? Relationships can be just as intimate and sensual without sharing nude pics with one another. OP, this is a huge character flaw that should be a red flag. You don't have to tolerate this type of behavior from him. Take your dignity and just walk away.

Don't blame the victim of a crime for something the perpetrator did.

Because she should be able to trust her boyfriend. She meant those for his eyes only, they should have stayed that way. If she gave him something she made for only him and he traded it for something would she "deserve it" for "taking the risk" of giving it to him? No? Then shut up.