By Anonymous - 09/04/2012 00:13 - United States - San Mateo
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Damn that's messed up to know he could get over you do quickly, but on the bright side new panties!
Depends on who broke it off. If he did to try and get a piece of ass, that's messed up, big time. If she did, and he was just trying to get some rebound sex.. that's understandable. Regifting and actually telling her it was for another girl in the first place.. he's a fuckin idiot.
How is this so upsetting? He bought something, and the person who he planned it for refused it. Would you have expected him to throw it away? That's a waste of $100. Now, if he broke up with you just to get with her, that's something to be upset at. But not the gift card.
92, I would just cut the card up if he'd bought it for some other girl. A family member that didn't want it? Not so bad (although I doubt a brother would buy his sister underwear...) but intentionally for another girl for her to wear in bed with him?... come to think of it I'd do more than just cut it up!
155, Except guys dont have the same emotional attachment to sex as do girls. You may not like it, but you're going to have to learn to accept it. He probably did what most guys do after they end a relationship, embrace the freedom. The only way this sucks for her is if he took her back only because the other girl rejected him. That would be a real reason to be upset.
What a jerk! Buy like the sexiest lingerie they have and show him. Then say 'too bad you'll never see me wearing them ;D' then kick to the curb :3
Dress up in it, show him, then ask if you look okay because you want to impress your new boyfriend.
God, why? Why suggesting that she, as revenge, should (pretend to) cheat on him, while he didn't cheat on her? Hello, the relationship was over, he was free to try to get in the pants of other ladies. Yes, he tried it way too fast, but I bet he isn't the only one in the world who wants a rebound asap after a break-up. Here some real advice for the OP: dump him. Your relationship ended for a reason, I don't think it's now going to get better.
247, Because the conditions of the gift have changed. He gave it to her in good faith that they were together, after which she used said gift to end the relationship and therefore - much like an engagement ring - needs to give it back. You aren't entitled to his money under false pretenses.
What was suspicious about him giving you a gift though? Unless you had JUST gotten back together?
I hit "YDI" as soon as I read "my boyfriend gave me a $100 gift card to Victoria's Secret. Suspicious, I checked the receipt." If you can't handle getting a gift without trying to investigate and snoop to see if said boyfriend has been up to no good, you guys should have stayed broken up. Mistrust and false allegations will kill even the strongest of relationships. Women tend to over think everything and analyze even the smallest of details, turning what could have been a nice gift into a fight/breakup. In this case, I think YDI.
Or maybe because he isn't normally the gift giving type? I think I'd find it suspicious if my boyfriend all of a sudden spent that much on me if he hadn't bought me something like that before! Saying this, there are always two sides, maybe he wanted to get back with her and realised he'd been an idiot and didn't know what to get her to try and get the relationship back on track, some guys struggle so they put a lot of money on a gift card (which isn't a bad thing because the girl can get something that fits and is to both his and her taste!)
141 - She just said she would rather spend it on video games. I agree with her, VS is over priced. There is great stuff elsewhere for better prices. VS isn't the only store that you could possibly get something sexy from. Idk where the hell you got her being insecure from... She admitted to wanting video games over pricy, sexy clothing! That's a girl who is secure in who she is. Sexy sensible gamer girls, unite!
141- You have the reasoning capabilities of a superficial 11 year old girl. Please think your responses through before you spew stupid shit into the reply box. First of all, she said Victoria's Secret bras are expensive and that she's rather spend the money she would have spent on an expensive bra on something both she and her boyfriend enjoy: video games. This is understandable, considering no one gives a fuck what the label on your bra says. I would have forgiven you for your misunderstanding, but then you had to go and mention "insecurities". Where the fuck did you pull that out of? If anyone here has insecurities, it certainly wouldn't be the woman who says she doesn't need name brand push-up bras to make her feel "sexy". It seems as of you didn't know how to take a simple response in which someone had a different opinion than you (on something as trivial as bra preference, no less), so you decided to start a stupid fight and make the middle-school equivalent of an arguement by telling her that she has insecurities (which, by the way, has nothing to do with anything and has no basis in her response).
Use it, then dumb him. (assuming, of course, that this kind of asshole move is typical of him)
177 - yeah, that, in fact, is what I did. As far as it being idiotic goes: eh, it kinda is. Oh well, you win some, you lose some, saying something dumb isn't the worst thing in the world, plus FMLers have someone to chew out - a practice they most obviously enjoy very much Also, 171, I most certainly did not forget a period - I actively chose not to place one there as it felt unnecessary and stiff *no period* ^_^ And for the hell of it, as I clearly lost any hope of winning here a couple comments back, #s 186 & 10, I freaking Love your profile pics. Good day gentlegnomes
Unless he gave it to her for an anniversary, birthday, easter, or other gift, it really doesn't matter. A random act of generosity doesn't have the same stigma attached to it as gifts meant for specific occassions. For instance, if I had access to something from work that I know my girlfriend would like and is being given to me, I would be quite irritated if she refused it on the grounds of it not being intended for her in the first place. It's a gift, get over it.