By neverdateaclosetcase - 17/11/2010 18:16 - Canada
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Well, no matter your sexual orientation, if you're successful in getting a relationship, chances are, you're going to engage in sexual activity. gay people must find their way, just as straight people. Nobody suggested gay people are uncontrollable sex fiends. Take it down a notch.
2 points to make... 1)stop using the word ignorant, every single human is ignorant about one thing or another, do ur pretty much calling the human 2) never understood why people feel the need to come out. its not like straight people go around announcing it to everyone. what u do or dont do in the bedroom is ur business.
Wow, that you apparently couldn't figure it out from the FML itself is one thing, but it even SAYS neverdateaclosetcase (MAN). OP: That is really sad, don't go along with it, it will only make things worse. Don't give up too easily on him though. I hope you will figure it out!
Agree, tell him to man up and come out. Ultimately despite his parents' response, he is their child. Parents only want the best for their kids. And so what, it might make for some awkward moments as everyone comes to grips, but jeesh. If he can't, you need a new love.
I think you should encourage him to come out but if he can't, I don't think you should leave him like the above post suggests. Obviously if you have been together for a year, you two are a great couple so you should be able to help him through this and have a wonderful holiday no matter what you end up doing :)
You're absolutely right. It's tough. I have several gay friends. These men I adore! And they would absolutely walk through fire for me. I wish people understood that being gay is not just about the sex. Like with any attraction it's a complex mixture. And feeling out how to tell parents can be brutal. You're right. Some lose everything when they come out. I don't think OP should act the transvestite (unless that's his bag). Tough situation.
If homosexuality wasn't viewed as so differently than heterosexuality, there would be nothing brutal about coming out. There wouldn't even be any need for people to come out. You can't control which gender you're attracted to, and the discrimination against homosexuals shouldn't have ever happened. What if the majority of the world was gay, and everyone picked on straight people? Ugh.