By Anonymous - 14/03/2015 11:04 - Netherlands - Dronten
Add a comment - Reply to : #
To keep the record straight here we DO NOT KNOW how long they have been dating. It could have been just a week and he said this! People do that. My boyfriend just told me he loved me after a month. Do I love him? No. It's been a MONTH. Seriously people. It takes time so don't bag on the girl when some people can be very attached very soon.
You don't have to be in love to have a relationship. It's not as if they're getting married (in some cases). People get in a relationship with the person because they're really interested in them and like them, etc. It's their time to get to know that person on a deeper level so that things can evolve between the two of them in hopes it will be something more.
That's not what I said at all. I never tell someone I love them if I don't mean it. I just think it's useless to start a relationship with someone if you're unsure about your feelings for eachother. All of the people I know stay friends until they know for sure how the other person feels about them, ánd the other way around. Imo, it's just mean to start a relationship with someone if you know they're madly in love with you, and you don't really feel anything for them. It's like you're giving them hope for something that may never happen, and stuff like that seriously destroys you. If all of you can date, and kiss people etc you don't have any feelings for; great for you. But I can't. I'm not like that. I need to know that I'm in love with them, and that they feel the same way. Otherwise, I won't even start a relationship. I just can't do it.
She doesn't deserve to be dumped if she is unsure of her feelings. We don't know her background, if she has trust issues, ANYTHING. Maybe the subject of love is awkward for her and she wanted to sort out her feelings before saying it back. It might have been a little rude, but people react differently to situations. You shouldn't dump someone over that. Plus, we don't know how long these two have been dating.
#52 the point of dating is if youre interested in each other, want to get to know each other on a deeper level, and eventually develop love. for all you know dating a friend you've fallen in love with can ruin the friendship and you can't always know if its strong enough to survive that. yes youre right you shouldn't lead someone on but giving someone a chance that you aren't sure how you feel about can turn out beautiful or ugly which is why they need to be honest with each other before it starts. maybe OP isn't at the same place their SO is at..
it's called "tact" and his gf has none. Her response could have been the same I've used before when I wasn't ready to say it, "Thank you. I really like you a lot but I'm not ready to say love you yet, hope you understand." That is way better than "Um, yay I guess". Doesn't matter how long they've been together. One needs to be able to say what you feel in a relationship without the fear of utter and total rejection. Her response was brutal at best and it itself, deserve to be relooked at as a life partner.
Wow. She could have been definitely more polite about the situation, it took a lot for you to say that to her and to react like that is uncalled for. Even if she doesn't feel the same way, it could've been handled way better.
I had a boyfriend tell me I was the love of his life after ONE DAY of being together. I reacted very similarly to OP's girlfriend because I was caught off guard and actually kind of creeped out by his level of attachment. It really does matter how long the two of them have been together.
rather she isn't the sensitive type or she doesn't love you. might have to rethink that relationship if it's number two.